If you always change things right before they succeed, that’s not intuition. I’ve grown paid Facebook groups. I’ve grown free Facebook groups. And every single time I got close to the finish line, my body would react. A tightening right in my upper abdomen. The Solar Gate. Right after that tightening, I would tell myself a story. “That’s my intuition.” “This isn’t aligned anymore.” “I need to burn this down.” It wasn’t intuition. It was my nervous system reacting to more responsibility. The closer I got to success, the more responsibility came with it. More leadership. More consistency. More expectation. And my patterns showed up. Second-guessing. Interfering. Starting over. Not because I was lazy. Not because I was scared. Because I didn’t yet have the capacity to hold that level. It took over $5,000 in courses, books, and a lot of honest observation before I could admit that. Once I learned to watch where my body tightened, everything became clearer. You stop romanticizing intuition. You stop calling collapse alignment. You stop burning things down to relieve pressure. You start recognizing patterns. And once you recognize the gate, the nervous system can be taught that what’s coming is safe to hold. Some of you aren’t blocked. You’re uncomfortable with responsibility—and calling the exit intuition.

The Heart Gate doesn’t struggle with love. It struggles with receiving without repayment. I will never forget the early days when I taught primarily relationship content. Women showed up consistently for the free teachings—and what surprised me most wasn’t their lack of desire for love. It was how deeply they struggled with receiving. If a man took them out to dinner, they felt indebted. If a man gave them money, they felt the need to return the favor two-fold. Receiving quickly turned into a quiet competition. Not because they were ungrateful. Because receiving without earning felt unsafe. These women were comfortable: working hard earning giving generously But receiving without effort triggered collapse. The Heart Gate doesn’t reject love. It rejects asymmetry. When ease appeared, obligation followed. When support arrived, repayment rushed in. When praise landed, it was minimized or redirected. So the body interrupted. And this hasn’t changed. Receiving is still one of the most requested topics—not because women don’t want money, support, praise, or ease… …but because many still collapse at the moment of receiving. Money arrives → guilt. Support arrives → debt. Ease arrives → obligation. Not because they don’t deserve it. But because the body hasn’t learned that receiving does not require repayment. Until that stabilizes, life will keep slowing after good things arrive. That’s the Heart Gate.

Stop letting people demonize your rest. Rest is not laziness. It’s not a character flaw. It’s not something you need to justify. Some of my clearest ideas, biggest shifts, and most aligned decisions came when I stopped doing and allowed myself to rest. Not hustle-rest. Not “earned” rest. Real rest. They’re calling it “bed rotting” now — as if stillness needs to be mocked so productivity can stay on the throne. But here’s the truth most people won’t say: Rest is where integration happens. Rest is where clarity lands. Rest is where creativity reorganizes itself. A nervous system that never rests cannot create anything new — it can only repeat what it already knows. If your body is asking you to slow down, listen. If your mind gets clearer when you rest, honor that. If your best ideas come in stillness, protect it. You don’t need to defend your rest. You need to trust it. Let them keep glorifying burnout. You’ll be over here receiving insight.

If positive thinking changed lives, some of you wouldn’t be here. If all it took was good thoughts, affirmations, and optimism, your life would already reflect the upgrade you keep visualizing. Thinking didn’t fail you— thinking was never the assignment. Transformation requires decisions that cost you comfort. Standards that remove options. Actions that expose where you’ve been avoiding responsibility. This space is not for mental rehearsal. It’s for execution, containment, and follow-through. To go to the next level, you must stop negotiating with the version of you that wants results without disruption. Readiness isn’t how inspired you feel. It’s how willing you are to move differently today. If you’re still here, this is your moment to decide: Will you advance—or continue circling insight? The work waits for no one.

I actually love the New Year. Not for the “new year, new me” energy. Not for the resolution lists. Not for the annual pressure to reinvent myself. I love it for the rituals. Rituals don’t ask me to become someone else. They help me maintain my standards of living. They reinforce the feminine authority that already exists within me. They remind my body what it means to move through life grounded, devoted, and self-led. This time of year isn’t about fixing myself. It’s about reaffirming who I am and how I live. Returning to the practices that keep me fired up, clear, and deeply in love with my own life. The New Year, for me, is a renewal of devotion — to my values, my pace, my boundaries, and my joy. So I’m curious… What rituals are you participating in this New Year? Not resolutions. Not goals. Rituals. 👇🏽