Imagine you go to work every day… And your boss says: “I’ll pay you at the end of the day.” So Monday comes… no check.Tuesday comes… no check.Wednesday… you get HALF of Monday’s pay.Thursday… nothing.Friday… still nothing. Then they tell you: “Don’t worry, it’s coming next week.” At some point… You’re either: 1. Staying, hoping they get it together OR 2. Leaving because you no longer trust them Why? Because their words don’t match their actions. Now let’s bring it home. This is what we do to our children. We say: “Do that again and I’m taking the tablet.” They do it again… -nothing happens. “We’re going to spend time together.” We get tired… -and don’t. “We’re a praying family.” We pray Monday… -but not Tuesday. We tell them: “Believe in yourself.” But when we’re upset… -we talk down to them. So now your child is learning “They don’t really mean what they say.” And then we wonder why • they don’t listen the first time • they test everything • they don’t take us seriously You’re not just dealing with disobedience…you’re dealing with broken trust. Because authority is not built on what you say… it’s built on what you consistently DO. So let’s make it make sense If your words don’t hold weight…why would your child move when you speak?

You have 15 seconds to give your child an instruction. That’s it. Not a sermon. Not a TED Talk. Not your whole childhood story. 👉 15 seconds. Because after 15 seconds… you’ve lost them. You over there talking like: “Now I told you earlier when we were in the car that I don’t like when you—” Meanwhile your child is looking at you like: 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀 They wondering: • why your breath smell like that• what that is on your tooth• why you got gray hair coming in• what they eating at school tomorrow• if they left their toy outside They are NOT listening. You are just… talking........... 😭 So here’s how it works: 🔥 Step 1: Say it in 15 seconds “Go clean your room.”“Pick that up.”“Stop hitting.” Clear. Direct. Done. 🔥 Step 2: Give them 15 seconds to repeat it back “What did I just say?” If they can’t repeat it… they didn’t process it.....START OVER 15 SECONDS ONLY 🔥 Step 3: Move No long lecture. No extra talking. ....... Action. Because let’s be real… A lot of times the lecture isn’t for them. It’s for us. We just talking to feel better 😭 But their brain doesn’t work like that. Especially with ADHD. They need: ✔ short✔ clear✔ direct✔ repeatable So today’s challenge: Try the 15 Second Race. And come back and tell me… Did it work, or did you catch yourself starting a whole sermon? 😂

Whether your child has a diagnosis or not…your assignment does not change. It doesn’t matter if they don’t listen talk back hit scream ignore you or seem like they’re all over the place You still have one job. The Word says in Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way they should go…” It doesn’t say: “Train them if it’s easy.”“Train them if they listen the first time.”“Train them only if they don’t have challenges.” No. It says: TRAIN THEM. That means: You hold the line. You stay consistent. You don’t back down because it’s hard. You don’t give up because they’re different.... Because we don’t get to choose the assignment… But we are responsible for how we show up in it. ADHD is not an excuse to remove structure. It is a reason to be more intentional with it. So before we even talk strategies this week… We have to settle this in our mind “I am still called to train my child.” 🔥 Let’s get practical: Tell me ONE thing you’re doing at home right now that isn’t working. Just one. And I’ll help you figure out why. Give me a few hours to respond... it’s just me over here 😂 But I got you.

Hello you all I first want to say I feel this is a divine connection my daughter is 13 and we’ve been dealing with ADHD since the age of 4 I’ve always noticed it but I was afraid of getting her medicine because I was giving her time to grow out of it she don’t have behavior problems but she is very hyper active have a hard time focusing and paying attention parenting has been a struggle for me but I am ready for some guidance because I no longer want to parent from frustration but parent from grace we go tomorrow for her diagnosis I’m going to consider medicine because she can’t focus at school and have little to no interests in doing class work so it’s affecting her grades overall she’s a great kid but just have some challenges if you all would help me pray that I make the right decisions for my child and do what’s best in her interest I would appreciate it

Let’s tell the truth today. Some of you are not just “having a hard time parenting”… You are parenting a child who doesn’t sit still doesn’t listen the first time gets distracted in seconds feels everything BIG and can go from 0 to 100 real fast And if we’re being honest…it’s exhausting. You’ve tried talking calmly raising your voice taking things away being patient being firm And some days it feels like… nothing is working. Your child is not “just bad.” And you are not a bad parent. But… Your child’s brain processes differently. And if you keep using the same approach… you’re going to keep getting the same results. This is where the gap is. You have the information… But you don’t yet have a system that works for your child. So what happens? You repeat yourself 10 times. You get frustrated. You feel triggered. You feel embarrassed in public. You questioning yourself like... “Why is this so hard for me?” “Why does my child act like this?” “What am I doing wrong?” And nobody really talks about the emotional toll it takes on YOU. The looks from other people.The comparisons.The feeling like your child is “too much.”The guilt after you lose your patience. You are not crazy. And your child is not broken. They need: ✔ structure ✔ consistency ✔ clear, short direction ✔ a parent who understands how to lead them Not just correct them. This week we’re going to close the gap.With understanding... strategy....and support for YOU as a parent