Oh my gosh help me because I can’t get anything right. I am majorly stressed over here trying to pack up and move. The kids were watching some TV so I couldn’t help load some heavy items and then they came in the garage bothering me and tattling on each other. “Seven made mean faces at me” “5 said nanananana to me”. Ok well you guys know the rule, if you’re not being kind to each other you lose TV time. 5 said “I don’t mind”. I said ok. They both ran to compete to turn off the TV and fighting each other who was gonna turn it off. I just lost it and screamed STOP like a psycho and they stopped. I turned off the TV. I said you both just lost TV tomorrow too. 5 again said “I don’t even mind”. I said ok. Go get into bed and pick 1 book. I told 7 pick a book and stay in her room I’ll be there when I’m done putting down 5. I tell 5 to put on her PJs. She starts talking about other things (stalling/delaying). I said I’m not talking about anything else until you have your PJs on. She just kept saying mom mom mom mom. I said ok you just lost story time. She said “I don’t even mind I’ll read it myself”. I said ok. She still wasn’t putting her PJs on so I went to take them out of her hand and put them on her. She wouldn’t let them go. This is such a trigger for me because why the heck am I in a physical power struggle with a 5 year old?!!! I never know what to do here so I just said “I’m going to count to 5 and if you don’t let go I’m going to yank them and you might get hurt”. Counted to 5, yanked them. 5 says “that didn’t even hurt”. I said ok. I put her PJs on. She asks if we can do her little calm down breathing card and I said no (I should have honestly said yes because we were both disregulated and needed it… but my brain thought it was too much like reading which I had said she lost). She starts crying. She’s saying I don’t even care about her and no one cares about her, only dad cares (we’re divorced). I pick her up and put her in bed. She is still crying. I ask if she wants a hug, she says yes. We hug. I tell her goodnight and I love her.

Imagine you go to work every day… And your boss says: “I’ll pay you at the end of the day.” So Monday comes… no check.Tuesday comes… no check.Wednesday… you get HALF of Monday’s pay.Thursday… nothing.Friday… still nothing. Then they tell you: “Don’t worry, it’s coming next week.” At some point… You’re either: 1. Staying, hoping they get it together OR 2. Leaving because you no longer trust them Why? Because their words don’t match their actions. Now let’s bring it home. This is what we do to our children. We say: “Do that again and I’m taking the tablet.” They do it again… -nothing happens. “We’re going to spend time together.” We get tired… -and don’t. “We’re a praying family.” We pray Monday… -but not Tuesday. We tell them: “Believe in yourself.” But when we’re upset… -we talk down to them. So now your child is learning “They don’t really mean what they say.” And then we wonder why • they don’t listen the first time • they test everything • they don’t take us seriously You’re not just dealing with disobedience…you’re dealing with broken trust. Because authority is not built on what you say… it’s built on what you consistently DO. So let’s make it make sense If your words don’t hold weight…why would your child move when you speak?

You have 15 seconds to give your child an instruction. That’s it. Not a sermon. Not a TED Talk. Not your whole childhood story. 👉 15 seconds. Because after 15 seconds… you’ve lost them. You over there talking like: “Now I told you earlier when we were in the car that I don’t like when you—” Meanwhile your child is looking at you like: 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀 They wondering: • why your breath smell like that• what that is on your tooth• why you got gray hair coming in• what they eating at school tomorrow• if they left their toy outside They are NOT listening. You are just… talking........... 😭 So here’s how it works: 🔥 Step 1: Say it in 15 seconds “Go clean your room.”“Pick that up.”“Stop hitting.” Clear. Direct. Done. 🔥 Step 2: Give them 15 seconds to repeat it back “What did I just say?” If they can’t repeat it… they didn’t process it.....START OVER 15 SECONDS ONLY 🔥 Step 3: Move No long lecture. No extra talking. ....... Action. Because let’s be real… A lot of times the lecture isn’t for them. It’s for us. We just talking to feel better 😭 But their brain doesn’t work like that. Especially with ADHD. They need: ✔ short✔ clear✔ direct✔ repeatable So today’s challenge: Try the 15 Second Race. And come back and tell me… Did it work, or did you catch yourself starting a whole sermon? 😂

Whether your child has a diagnosis or not…your assignment does not change. It doesn’t matter if they don’t listen talk back hit scream ignore you or seem like they’re all over the place You still have one job. The Word says in Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way they should go…” It doesn’t say: “Train them if it’s easy.”“Train them if they listen the first time.”“Train them only if they don’t have challenges.” No. It says: TRAIN THEM. That means: You hold the line. You stay consistent. You don’t back down because it’s hard. You don’t give up because they’re different.... Because we don’t get to choose the assignment… But we are responsible for how we show up in it. ADHD is not an excuse to remove structure. It is a reason to be more intentional with it. So before we even talk strategies this week… We have to settle this in our mind “I am still called to train my child.” 🔥 Let’s get practical: Tell me ONE thing you’re doing at home right now that isn’t working. Just one. And I’ll help you figure out why. Give me a few hours to respond... it’s just me over here 😂 But I got you.

Hello you all I first want to say I feel this is a divine connection my daughter is 13 and we’ve been dealing with ADHD since the age of 4 I’ve always noticed it but I was afraid of getting her medicine because I was giving her time to grow out of it she don’t have behavior problems but she is very hyper active have a hard time focusing and paying attention parenting has been a struggle for me but I am ready for some guidance because I no longer want to parent from frustration but parent from grace we go tomorrow for her diagnosis I’m going to consider medicine because she can’t focus at school and have little to no interests in doing class work so it’s affecting her grades overall she’s a great kid but just have some challenges if you all would help me pray that I make the right decisions for my child and do what’s best in her interest I would appreciate it