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How often are you posting on your instagram?
I have been starting to fix my instagram latelty and have put up a few pictures now. Of course I want to make it better and better over time. So just curious, how often are you posting?
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Are you asking how often we post to our story or how often we post new photos?
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@Felix Urbanek While there is a timing strategy you can search in the search bar and in the off market dating system, I post photos immediately after I edit them lol
AI - instragram profile feedback
Anyone ever consider using AI to give MOA members feedback for improvement of individual Instagram profiles. Was chatting with chatgpt today about this and how to get around security concerns with instagram and chatgpt thinks it would be fairly easy but I don't have enough knowledge to do it.
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@Shawn Ort Nobody said "Don't use AI." As an example, the OP has since deleted his post and I can't find it anymore, but it was another request for feedback. I go to his instagram to take a look, and I have never seen a profile of someone who fucked it up worse and then came here and said "Will this work?" He had great locations.. but these were just endless landscape photos, taken over years. If he were in the locations again and could take them with actual composition and, I dunno, actually placing himself in the photo, then it would be a great instagram and all he would have to do is edit them in lightroom. I left a mean comment before I deleted it because I didn't want to get in trouble for being mean. You had better believe that one of the first things I did when I got to this server was screenshot like 4 of the instagrams I liked and asked Chat GPT, "Where can I go in Houston that would get me similar shots." And that was incredibly useful. But... I actually went to the testimonials and looked through them. I got the Off Market Dating System and learned about posing and composition and editing. I did, JUST A LITTLE BIT OF WORK BEFOREHAND. When I see most of these guys asking for feedback, it seems to me that they haven't even gone to the testimonials or learned about composition and posing. So when you say, "Have you used AI to give feedback?" I say, "I don't have to." These photos don't pass, and I can tell they don't pass in literally 2 seconds. And if they looked at the testimonials they would know that they don't pass, too. So why are they asking if they have a passable instagram? Back to square one, because they want us to lie to them and tell them it's actually a great instagram, go build a list and blast messages out to some hotties champ! And then when it doesn't work, they can fall back into black pill bullshit. "The only thing that matters is looks," "I'll never be good enough," "The community told me my instagram was good but these whores only want to date Chad."
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@Shawn Ort There’s more than enough examples in the IG testimonials. If they ask if their IG is up to par, and it’s clearly not, I assume they never even looked at them. But we don’t need to be in the program to have a good IG And I agree. I don’t want to buy the program and still be stuck on fix IG and build a list .
Feedback please
So I'm taking more action now. Need to figure out how and where to get some seriously good photos for my IG but woul like any feedback on any of these as just something to add today... And yes those are actually fava beans in the hat/chianti photo https://www.instagram.com/matthew_porter_barnett/ Is my IG right now. Any feedback on that will also be taken like a man, so don't hold back. I want to add thing that help me, not hurt me 😀
Feedback please
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@Matthew Porter-Barnett the photos you have posted here, and the ones you have on your IG, are not going to help you achieve MOA goals. You need to delete them all and start over.
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@Matthew Porter-Barnett Go to the instagram testimonials and pick someone you like and try to emulate their instagram as best you can. You can google "Most instagrammable locations in *my city*." or "Wedding venues in *my city*." Look up Ty Buchanan and his comments on photos. A lot of the sentiments are repeated ad nauseam. The biggest problem with your photos is they are photos of YOU and you only. Recognize that nobody, literally nobody, cares about what men look like on instagram. You must showcase charisma, humor, preselection, access to scarce resources, locations, and networks. Open your mind to what I just said: For example, fitness is a scarce resource. Unique architecture is a scarce location, even if it's public like my Pennzoil tower photos. Don't get caught up in "Well my photos don't have private jets, Rolls Royce, and AP watches so I guess MOA is not for me." You will also see people say, "Well your IG sucks because you don't have any preselection." My guy, I have never taken a preselection photo in my life. I do not have access to that amount of attractive women all at once. A good high quality preselection photo is something you get AFTER you done all the legwork of getting high quality candid and lifestyle photos. Takes work, takes time. Also look up photographers in your area. You will get good inspiration from them. That's how I got my Pennzoil photo. Never even knew the building existed, even though I've gone to the theatre across the street from it a few times in my life. You'll start to get an eye for good locations as you practice.
Not giving a fuck
So I'm at a point in life, at 52 years of age, where I really don't give much of a fuck what anyone else thinks of me. I'm starting a new chapter in my life and want to create something epic for myself. I've been holding back a bit on fixing my IG since joining MOA in October 2025 because I'm married and I did give a fuck what my wife thought. We're seperated and while I would rather we sorted things out, I'm at the point where it doesn't look like we will turn this around. Also, she's blocked me on IG, so it really doesn't matter what I have on there now! Back in October I had a 10ish year old insta with 2 photos of my kids on it from 10 years ago. This what I now have https://www.instagram.com/matthew_porter_barnett/ Not there yet with it, like I say I've been holding back. Happy to take any feedback or criticism... A question though.. who else is in the UK? Is there anyone who would be interested in working together on getting photos sorted for each other and helping each other on this journey?
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@Joseph Pimental how are younger women higher maintenance? They’re excited you have a car and you don’t live with your parents. You have cool stories and experience.
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@Matthew Porter-Barnett I dance Bachata. Poorly. I understand. Consider that a well performed dance with a good follow often builds that connection. It's may not necessarily be that she likes you, it's just what happens when the dance feels good and you're in sync. I'm not shitting on the vibe. I'm not there watching and maybe she does like you, but that's been my experience. You can't be thinking that every time you're in sync with a good follow that they want you. That's just how dancing feels. To your kids point. They will state the following: "Dad I cannot believe you are dating a girl that is my age. It's disgusting." What will you say? "Yes son/daughter, you are right. I will break up with her." Or: "I like what I like and I'm not ashamed of it." Man you better believe I wish my dad would divorce my stepmom and go fuck a 20 year old. He's 63. You don't know what they'll say. I expect your daughter will disapprove. Your son might be like "hell yea dude get it." Who knows. All you can do is live for yourself. They're adults. Go get laid. Go live.
Tell female “friends” about dates?
Hey guys. I’m to the situation where I floated the idea of doing something plutonic with an attractive female friend tonight. Since then I kind of forgot and now have a date. Do I tell her I’ve got a date? Not really sure how explicit we should be with female friends / teammates that could in future be an option… this is time sensitive haha
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You made a commitment and you broke it. You should be more concerned that that is the type of person you are choosing to be, and you are what you do.
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Brett Stringfellow
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