⚡ “younger women always have better offspring”, "you must be young to have kids"⚡ The fertility myth we grew up with and what science tells us Let’s dismantle one of the strongest societal beliefs: “The younger the woman is, the healthier the baby.” It’s everywhere — in medicine, culture, family pressure. But modern research shows a much more nuanced truth. It’s everywhere — in medicine, culture, family pressure. But modern research shows a much more nuanced truth. 💣 1. Women’s eggs are not time bombs A groundbreaking study published in 2025 (Arbeithuber B. et al., Science Advances) delivered a surprising discovery: 👉 Egg cells do NOT accumulate mitochondrial DNA mutations with age (ages 20–42). Key findings from this study: - in blood + saliva → mtDNA mutations increase with age - in oocytes → mutation load stays low and stable - eggs had 17–24× fewer mtDNA mutations than somatic tissues This means: Women’s eggs have a powerful protective mechanism that keeps mitochondrial DNA nearly unchanged for decades. So no — eggs do NOT “decay” genetically the way we were told in school biology. But… ⚠️ 2. Age Still Matters but for different reasons The same study explicitly states: 👉 chromosomal abnormalities STILL increase with maternal age This is crucial. The stability of mtDNA does not mean: - eggs do not age - fertility stays the same - older eggs are risk-free What actually changes with age: - ↑ aneuploidy (chromosomal errors) - ↓ ovarian reserve - ↓ quality of ovulation - ↓ follicular environment - ↓ hormonal regulation So yes, age affects female fertility. But not because “eggs fall apart.” Rather because the system around the egg changes. 📌 This aligns with decades of reproductive research and remains consistent. 👨‍🔬 3. And the part society avoids: The man matters too The myth goes: “Men stay fertile forever.” Science strongly disagrees. Studies show that as men age: - sperm DNA fragmentation increases - motility + morphology decrease - risk of autism, schizophrenia & some genetic conditions in offspring increases with paternal age - time to pregnancy becomes longer - miscarriage risk increases

👇 How many of these still secretly live in your mind? ❌ “Harder, faster, louder = better.” Reality: More pressure doesn’t mean more pleasure. In fact, high-intensity thrusting can overstimulate nerve endings (especially the clitoris), leading to discomfort or even shutdown. Many women need slowness, rhythm, and emotional safety to even feel aroused. 🔬 Studies show that context, connection, and focus on clitoral stimulation are far more predictive of orgasm than any “pounding” technique. ❌ “If I need to talk about it then something’s wrong.” Reality: Talking is sex. Communication is intimacy. If you’re not able to ask for what you want, say no, or negotiate turn-ons — you’re not actually having great sex, you’re just performing. 🧠 According to research, couples who talk openly about their desires and boundaries report higher satisfaction and fewer sexual difficulties. ❌ “Women don’t want sex as much as men.” Reality: This is a cultural myth, its not a biological fact. Women are socialized to suppress desire and feel shame around sexual expression. But research shows that women’s arousal is responsive, it needs context, safety, and a sense of agency. When those are present, many women have equal or higher sexual desire than men. It’s not about drive - it’s about conditions. ❌ “Virginity always means bleeding.” Reality: The hymen isn’t a “seal” it’s a flexible tissue that varies hugely between people. Some are born with almost none. Some stretch from other activities (sports, tampons). Bleeding during first sex usually comes from lack of arousal or lubrication, not “breaking” anything. This myth fuels shame and violence in some cultures and it needs to go. ❌ “More sex partners = looser vagina.” Reality: Vaginas don’t “stretch out” from sex. They’re muscular, elastic, and designed to accommodate childbirth. Tightness or looseness is influenced by pelvic floor tone, arousal level, and age, not partner count. 🧠 If someone’s saying this. They’re revealing more about their insecurity than your anatomy.

Let’s talk about the muscles nobody talks about and why they might just hold the key to your calm, confidence, and better sex. Most people have no idea these muscles even exist until something goes wrong. And in many countries (like Russia), pelvic floor specialists aren’t even a thing yet, though they can literally change lives. What Is the Pelvic Floor? It’s a group of muscles forming a small hammock at the base of your pelvis. They hold up your bladder, uterus/prostate, and intestines and they’re the secret behind control, pleasure, and stability. Both men and women have them. And both can have issues when those muscles are too tight, too weak, or totally disconnected. ⚠️ Why It Matters These muscles play a role in almost everything below the waist: 💧 bladder control 🔥 orgasm intensity and timing 🫁 deep breathing and core strength 🧘‍♀️ posture, balance, and even emotional grounding And here’s the wild part 🧠 Research links chronic pelvic floor tension to anxiety, premature ejaculation, and overall body stress. When the base of your body is in constant tension, your whole nervous system stays on high alert. That means less pleasure, faster release, more mental fatigue. 💪 How to Connect With It 1️⃣ Find it: try stopping your pee mid-flow once (don’t make it a habit). 2️⃣ Engage: gently squeeze as if holding in gas or lifting something inside. 3️⃣ Breathe: inhale = relax, exhale = engage. 4️⃣ Balance: a healthy pelvic floor is flexible, not just strong. Even 3–5 minutes a day can improve control, sensitivity, posture — and lower anxiety. 🧘‍♀️ Why I Love This Topic Because your pelvic floor is more than anatomy — it’s your foundation. When it’s relaxed and alive, energy moves freely through your body.When it’s locked, everything above — your breath, libido, emotions — starts to freeze. Have you ever trained your pelvic floor? Or even knew it existed before this post? 😏 — Irina 🖤 Clinical Psychologist & Sexologist

In classic psychoanalysis, there are two opposing forces: 🌱 Libido from Latin libīdō = desire, longing, drive.This is your life energy: your urge to connect, create, feel pleasure, grow.It fuels sex, art, relationships, joy and aliveness itself. 🌑 Mortido from Latin mors = death. This is the destructive pull: inward aggression, apathy, shutdown, withdrawal. It shows up in depression, self-sabotage, burnout, addiction. These energies live inside all of us. They’re not “good” or “bad” but how we channel them matters. Feeling “low libido”? It might not be hormonal - it could be mortido taking the wheel. • Constant hustle without rest? That’s libido pushed into burnout - which flips into mortido. • Reconnecting to your desires, body, and pleasure activates libido and brings life back in. The body wants to feel alive. But when we suppress emotion, avoid intimacy, or carry unprocessed pain mortido grows quietly in the dark. 🛠 Want to bring libido back? – Move your body (yes, even for 5 minutes) – Dance, scream, cry, shake - let the emotion go – Say something you’ve been afraid to say – Touch yourself like someone who deserves pleasure – Be wildly honest with someone you trust

It’s also about stress, shame, emotional pressure, and our relationship with control. In many cases, the root of erectile dysfunction is in the mind. 👉 in performance anxiety, 👉 in fear of not being enough, 👉 in past experiences that left a mark, 👉 in disconnection from the body. You’re not a machine. You’re not broken. Erection ≠ masculinity. Sex ≠ performance. ED can often show up when you: • Overthink during sex • Feel pressure to “deliver” or “satisfy” • Disconnect from pleasure and stay in your head • Try to control everything (even your arousal) The nervous system doesn’t lie.If it doesn’t feel safe — it won’t turn on. because your body is protecting you. 🔄 What helps? • Breathwork before intimacy. 3 mins of deep belly breathing = less stress, more sensation. • Slow down. More presence = more pleasure. • Talk. The more shame you release, the more freedom your body feels. • Therapy. Sometimes it’s not about sex at all, it’s about identity, pressure, and how you’ve learned to relate to yourself. ED is not a failure. It’s a message. The body is always talking. Are you ready to listen?