The kind of love I speak about isn’t loud, rushed, or desperate. It’s the kind that feels safe, especially to a heart that has been hurt before. If you’re healing, you don’t want butterflies that feel like anxiety. You don’t want chaos mistaken for passion. You don’t want to earn love by overgiving or shrinking yourself. You want something steady. You want someone who understands that healing comes with quiet days, guarded moments, and a need for reassurance, not because you’re broken, but because you’re rebuilding. The most beautiful thing about healing is this: You begin to recognize the difference between intensity and peace. And when you’ve done the work within yourself, you don’t look for someone to save you. You look for someone who can sit beside you while you continue becoming whole. If you’re in a season of healing, don’t rush love. Let your standards rise with your self-worth. The right love will not feel like a test. It will feel like alignment. And when it comes, it won’t try to undo your healing, it will honor it.

I wanted to come back and share an update with the group. I haven’t had many places to share this journey, and this community has been part of helping me get to a better place. Alongside the Magnetic Love Reset, I also pursued other studies and did a lot of deep reflection to understand what had been playing out in my life. For over a decade, there was someone in my life. At one point I did find the strength to walk away and poured all of my energy into rebuilding myself. Years later he came back, and I opened the door again. That time, I spent five years in a relationship that brought me very little peace. Looking back, my body was telling me the truth the entire time. It was telling me I wasn’t safe, that something wasn’t right. But I ignored those signals. I had grown up believing that your word means something, and when he asked me to go all in, I took that seriously. I kept blaming myself and trying harder, believing the problem must be me. In five years, I never experienced him truly showing up in my life. We never spent a day together doing something simple like going on a date, going out, or sharing time in the real world. I was living in a story in my mind, holding onto the version of him I had first met the kind and charming one. Whenever I questioned why he never spent time with me, I was told I was complaining. Whenever I tried to walk away, my phone would suddenly be filled with messages. I wanted a family. I wanted children. I held onto that dream and convinced myself that if I wanted love and a family, maybe I just had to endure the pain and stay quiet. A year ago I made a major change. I changed my number, moved, and disappeared from his life. During that time I rebuilt myself. I became a founder. My career flourished. My health improved. Abundance started flowing into my life in ways I hadn’t experienced before. Eventually he found me again through email. This time I was stronger, but I still had more work to do internally. I realized something important: it wasn’t actually him that I loved. It was the vision of the life I wanted a family, a husband, a shared future.

I am seeking guidance on how to release resentment toward the time, opportunities, love that may have been lost while I was simply surviving and protecting myself.

What was your biggest insight from today? My biggest insight was recognizing how strongly my nervous system had adapted to waiting and emotional uncertainty. I became aware of how my body was almost anticipating disruption or reconnection, and how much energy that pattern had taken from me over time. Today I realized that I no longer have to live in that state. I can allow the emotions to move through me while staying grounded in the truth that I now have the power to choose what unfolds in my life and relationships. How are you going to EMBODY the shifts that you made over the past 10 days? I’m going to embody these shifts by honoring the awareness I’ve gained about my body, my needs, and my boundaries. Instead of reacting to old patterns or feeling pulled back into dynamics that don’t serve me, I will pause, stay grounded, and make decisions from clarity rather than emotion. Practically, that means protecting my healing space, staying connected to my values, and reminding myself that my peace and emotional safety are non-negotiable. How can you bring what you’ve learned into your life? I will bring this into my life by continuing to listen to my nervous system and trusting the signals it gives me. I’ve learned that my body often recognizes misalignment before my mind does, and honoring that awareness helps me stay aligned with what I truly want. Moving forward, I want to build relationships that feel calm, consistent, and reciprocal where I don’t have to abandon myself or wait for someone to show up.