A few days ago, a sister I know was watching a movie. By the end of it, she found herself reflecting deeply and asking a powerful question: “If you had the chance to go back and choose your husband again, would you still choose the same one?” She shared this question on her Snapchat, and while a few sisters answered “yes,” more than 90% said “absolutely no.”Their explanations were filled with words that were heartbreaking, even frightening. Reading those responses shook me. It made me realize just how many Muslim marriages today are filled with sadness, regret, and struggle. Some people even commented, “This is why I’ll never get married. I don’t want to suffer.” That reminded me of something my aunt once told me. She said, “Marriage is suffering, and you just have to deal with it, because Allah told us to do it.” But hearing all these reflections made me wonder:Why are so many marriages today so far from what Allah ﷻ describes in the Qur’an? Why don’t we see the peace, love, and tranquility that He promised us in marriage? And then I realized—marriages are not all the same. It can actually be dangerous to compare our own lives and future to what we see around us. Some people enter marriage without truly knowing what marriage means. Nobody prepared them, nobody explained. They just did it—sometimes out of love without looking deeper, sometimes because someone was introduced to them, sometimes because of family or social pressure. Others got married just to escape their homes, just to “be free.” Some said yes only because the other person was Muslim, without checking if they shared the same values and goals. Some got married only for children, and some were even forced into it. In so many cases, people married with no clear purpose—most importantly, without truly knowing why Allah ﷻ prescribed marriage and without following His guidance. Allah tells us that marriage is meant to bring peace, but that peace can only exist if both husband and wife fulfill what He requires from them.