Afternoon all, I’ve just done an impromptu short video lesson off the back of a TikTok video that came up this morning, as I felt it highlighted something really important. It’s called Trust, Trauma and Disclosure. I’ll share it here as well, but I’ve also added it to the classroom so it’s easy to find and revisit whenever needed. It explores: - why many children learn early that speaking out comes with consequences - how fear and belonging can keep children silent - why trust is essential in safeguarding - the long-term impact when professionals break that trust This is such an important area for anyone working with children, trauma, or safeguarding. I hope it’s helpful. 💜 And if you didn't spot already i added another lesson the other day too.

Welcome to all our new members 💜 As more professionals join our community, you’ll start to see daily posts. These are designed as simple prompts to support you personally, as well as in your professional role. All lessons will be delivered live, with links shared in the calendar or uploaded into the classroom section. If there are specific topics you’d like me to cover, please feel free to send me a private message. I’ll also occasionally ask for suggestions within the group when I’m planning upcoming content. For now, we’re going to return to a core exercise you’ll see regularly: Gratitude. You’ll notice a theme in my approach to regulation and resilience-building — pattern interrupt. One of the simplest and most effective ways to do this is to pause and think of three things you are grateful for. Then sit with those for 5 minutes, focusing on your breath. You can also use the resource in the Regulation Toolkit within the classroom — a guided 5-minute reset to support controlled, regulated breathing. Sometimes, simply pressing pause on the negative loop running in the background can make a significant difference. And it’s something you can do almost anywhere. This is also a powerful tool to use with individuals you are supporting who may be visibly dysregulated. Doing this with them can help build a sense of safety and trust within their nervous system. Because it’s not just the conscious mind we’re supporting — it’s the unconscious too. And this is where co-regulation, within professional roles, can support both your nervous system and the person in front of you.

Sometimes affirmations don’t land because the brain knows they don’t feel true. Saying “I am happy” when you’re not can create resistance. But shifting to “What if I could feel happier?” opens the door instead of forcing it. This approach helps your brain feel safe enough to consider change, without feeling unrealistic or overwhelming. Start here: “What if I could…” Then gently build to: “I can…” → “I will…” Try this: Take a current thought:“I’m not good enough”“I can’t handle this” Reframe it: ➡️ What if I’m more capable than I think?➡️ What if I can handle this? Then ask: How would I show up if that were true? And if you have achieved things in the past that you never thought you could, remind your brain of this! This will open your brain up to the possibility of believing something is possible. 💜Here’s mine:💜 Old belief:“I will never be successful.”(This comes from a childhood wound.) Reframe:What if I can be successful… because I’ve already done it before when nobody thought I could?What if I can do it again?And look how far I’ve already come from where I was. Now something shifts. My brain starts to open to the possibility. So the next step becomes:➡️ I can be successful again And my brain is actually on board with that. The “I will” part?That still needs a bit more evidence, and that’s okay.

Today we’re keeping it simple: Gratitude Purpose:To gently shift the brain from threat → safety When we focus on what we do have, even in small ways, we begin to signal to the nervous system that we are safe enough in this moment. Exercise: Write down 3 things you are grateful for: - One small - One meaningful - One about yourself Optional: Close your eyes and feel each one for 10 seconds. Let your body register it, not just your mind, and I want you to read these every day this week. Here is mine: I am grateful for my car. No matter how difficult life has been, I’ve always had the freedom to get where I need to go. That independence has never been taken from me, and I don’t take it for granted. I am grateful for the knowledge and experience I’ve gained.It has helped me create safety for myself and my daughter, and now allows me to support others too. And finally, I am deeply grateful for my resilience.I have walked paths that would break many, fighting cancer, surviving a perforated bowel, and navigating abuse, all while trying to keep life as normal as possible for my little girl, who was only three at the time.I did it alone. And that resilience is what has carried me to where I am today. Recently, someone shared a song with me that really resonated, “Loyal, Brave and True” from Mulan The words felt like a reflection of everything I’ve had to become. Give it a listen and see if it resonates with you too. Take a moment today to complete this exercise. Even if it feels small, it matters. Your nervous system is always listening. 💜 If you feel comfortable sharing, we’d love to hear what you’re grateful for in the comments. If you’d prefer to keep this private, that’s absolutely okay too. You might simply let us know you’ve completed the exercise, or share how you found it. Engagement helps us understand what’s landing, what’s helping, and how we can continue to support you in the best way possible 💜