Every single day, millions of sons grow up feeling invisible to the one man whose approval matters most. It's a quiet tragedy happening in homes everywhere. If you're a father, the difference between raising a confident man and leaving a wounded boy is intentionality. Your son doesn't just need your presence; he needs your recognition. Are you really seeing him? What does every son desperately need from his father? This isn't feel-good theory; it's the blueprint for building unshakeable confidence. Most fathers have no idea they are missing five critical elements that determine whether their son thrives or just survives. The goal is to move beyond the 'nice memory' and build a soul that can weather any storm. When was the last time your son looked at you with genuine excitement? Not because of a gift, but because you chose him. We often fail not through lack of love, but through lack of presence. There are five pillars—Time, Skills, Direction, Conviction, and Heart—that create the foundation of a man. Missing even one creates a void that the world will try to fill with garbage. Quality time is the first essential, but it’s not just sitting in the same room. I’m talking about intentional experiences: mountain climbing, building projects, or special trips. These are the foundation stones of his identity. These moments put weight into your son’s soul, steadying him for the future. He needs to know you aren't there because you have to be, but because you want to be. Here is what happens in his mind during quality time: He stops thinking 'My dad loves me because he has to' and starts thinking 'My dad actually likes being around me.' When a son knows his father genuinely enjoys his company, he develops an unshakeable sense of worth. Do you enjoy your son, or is he just another task on your to-do list? We have outsourced our sons’ education to YouTube and schools. It’s not enough. Your son shouldn’t be standing helplessly under a car hood at eighteen. When you teach him practical life skills—from changing oil to tying a tie—you are telling him: 'I believe you can handle real responsibility.' Competence is the precursor to confidence.

Locked in more profit. Closed some stock positions, cash/profit off of the table. Only $45 more dollars on top of the $100 I already did for the week for my goal. 15% in a month of return of $15 per $100 used x3....I'll take it.

Solid live stream with your uncle! It's easy to get stuck in a negative mood/hate. Take a minute, but find the good. Like Mr. Rogers would say is to look for the helpers. Find the good and joy. The bad ends eventually. Let's rock it!!!

I used to think that providing for my family meant being available to my clients 24/7, even when I was a thousand miles away from the office. I remember sitting in a shaded room in Mexico while my wife, the step kids, and my parents were out by the pool playing a game. I could hear their laughter through the wall—it was loud, messy, and full of life. But all I could feel was the vibration of my phone in my pocket. My real estate business was exploding, and I was terrified that if I didn't answer every single text or lead right then, it would all disappear. I stayed in that other room, hunched over my laptop, snapping at anyone who walked in because the "noise" was breaking my focus. I wasn't in Mexico. I was in a mental prison of my own making. When I finally emerged for dinner, I was drained and distant. I wasn't the fun dad or the present husband; I was a ghost. The breaking point came when my family looked at me and said, "If you aren't actually going to be here with us, we just won't invite you next time." It felt like a gut punch because I realized I was winning at work but losing the very people I was working for. I learned that a King who isn't present in his own Kingdom eventually loses his seat at the table. We tell ourselves we are doing it for them, but if we aren't careful, we sacrifice the relationship on the altar of the "hustle." True discipline isn't just about working hard; it’s about the discipline of turning it off. It’s about realizing that our presence is the most valuable currency we have. Being a brother in this forge means holding each other accountable to not just build wealth, but to build a home where people actually want us to stay. 1. Where are you "in the other room" mentally even when you are physically home? 2. What is the one work habit you need to kill so your family actually feels your presence? Your action today: Use the Family Council Meeting tool. Sit down with your inner circle for 10 minutes, put the phones in another room, and ask them how you can be more present this week.

1/7/26 The qualities I am going to achieve are being positive, I need to be determined to work on my car in a detached and unheated garage, and focused to clean up my "work" area. Thanks for the spreadsheets to help get organized!!