Crazy in circles 🤷🏼‍♀️🤪

@Alexey Inyushin with my experience, I would say that children don't need friends in their parents. They need parents and reference points. Parents who are friendly, but the parent has to be a parent and the child has to know that the parent is the parent, who is there for them all the time, who is also their friend, who they can confide in without judgement and fear. When it comes to the crunch, a parent is a parent. Friends are friends. Problems surface when children do not have mature adult reference points, because when they are only looking at friends who allow them to do what they can, especially in the earlier stages where their personality has not been formed, it will lead them to grow up with a lot of immaturity. Unfortunately, a lot of parents tend to be immature because they grew up with parents who are immature, so it is a cycle that never breaks. We need to learn how to be mature parents to raise children who will become mature adults.

@Alexey Inyushin definitely, we wish the best for them, which is why we need to parent them lovingly. Take it from a very wise, white-haired lady 😉 who knows child psychology. Blessings

@Andrew Nelson cool 😎 Let’s do it! Let me check my schedule and set it up 🔝

@Andrew Nelson let's plan it for March in that case. Let me know how you're placed as per CET Rome time and we'll try and freeze it.

I've been mulling over your last response - “Meet people where they are at” is not a moral duty. It is a strategic choice, first and foremost protecting your peace and energy. Do it only when the context and outcome justify the cost. This is my lived experience after overwhelm trying to be the nice girl I was brought up to be! Instead of becoming less than who I was, because that's the only way I could meet them, I began to actively decide who I actually wanted to meet with. Priorities and Boundaries. Also, we sometimes really feel called to help people out because we've been there. We've done that, and we've come out of the hole, as we say. We also know that people have to make the first step towards us. Offering advice doesn't help. If they don't want it, we can scream till we are blue in the face, and it won't sit with anybody! Without any expectation of who should listen to what I'm saying, I just speak it out and let it go. And whoever wants to listen will come to me. It's turned from wanting towards giving out and attracting the right people.

@Andrew Nelson less compassionate or more tough love? As a parent you know what works and asa self-aware parent, you are able to observe yourself as well. You're doing great!