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382 contributions to Brojo: Confidence & Integrity
30 Day Challenge: Announcing the Winners!
Congrats to all of you who participated in January's 30 Day Challenge to plan out your 2026 so you can build confidence and create a meaningful lifestyle. I was stoked to see you participate, and pleased with how open, honest and self-humbling you were in your assessments of yourselves, and your goals for this year. It was hard to choose a winner. GRAND PRIZE goes to @Travis Whitney - I was impressed with your honesty, the careful consideration of setting realistic goals, and your dedication to valued living. You have won 6x monthly coaching sessions with me 1:1 to ensure your goals get achieved! RUNNER UP PRIZE goes to @Hemi Rainford - dedication to detail and facing the truth about yourself, while balancing the need to be compassionate and understanding with your progress, will lead to a successful 2026. Enjoy 3 months' worth of VIP Brotherhood on the house :) COMMITMENT PRIZE for the people who participated significantly in the challenge, including the non-paying members who were ineligible for the main prizes, I will host a live workshop exclusively for you to come and get your plans critiqued by me (and the other winners) personally, fine-tuning your plan into a masterpiece. This is booked into the calendar (if you can't make it live you can send through your questions for the recording): https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/calendar?eid=cabe5ba00bf84e9393b8ecd45760d47e Winners: @Aaron Frater , @Prateek G , @Andy Wallam , @Jason Stobart , @Egor Titov , @Lawrence Gibson , @Dana R , @Alee Allana , @Carolina Gallon , @Tyler Scott
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Thank you!
🔥 Day 23: Social Courage in Action
Confidence isn’t a feeling - it's a behaviour. For most of you, being courageously socially will unlock bravery and integrity in all other areas of life. If you want 2026 to be great, you must accept the trade-off: you must initiate and endure emotionally uncomfortable social interactions. Choose ONE (that's uncomfortable but not terrifying): - Express a preference you usually suppress - Set a boundary to respect yourself - Initiate a conversation with someone new - Say “no” without justifying your reason Post below: What you did and how you feel about yourself having done it. P.S. The Boundaries and Confrontations course is a masterclass in these skills https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/7bd26d27
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I did intiate a difficult conversation with the friend I work for. He is a friend, and a man, so perhaps not high stakes, but it was a conversation about me doing less hours, which is tge opposite of what he wants. ..so I had procrastinated for a couple if months and it felt fairly big. .. it also involved me saying no when I wanted to give a people pleasing yes.
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It felt charged, intense, dangerous, uncomfortable.
🔥 Day 21: Relationship Integrity Check
Integrity shows up fastest in relationships. It's when we're being watched, and attached to certain reactions from others, that we're most likely to betray our core values. On the other hand, if you can maintain integrity during social interactions, you'll be rewarded in the long run with high quality and reliable relationships. Your task: Answer: - Where do I people-please? - Where do I avoid honesty? - Where do I over-give or under-express? Choose one relationship where you’ll show up differently this month. Post below: Share the behavior change (keep the other person anonymous). P.S. The Powerful Honesty course will help with this https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom/f8a97065
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Basicly, all 3 things I do in relationships. Intimate relationships, and also close friendships. Actually to a less degree even in my more casual friendships. I notice, even after a year or more working with the Brojo material, I still reflexively want to make people feel better when they express themselves. I want to take people's pain away. I reflexively people please, and avoid honesty to validate others (and hope for validation myself I suppose...covert contracts). I understand express my preferences, and seek to know theirs, so I can bolster and validate them. That still happens, an old set of patterns. I also have days, especially when I feel energetic, where a new part kicks in that says, be honest, or at least don't tell lies. ...a part tgat says no to requests occasionally, and doesn't reflexively day yes.
🔥 Day 27: Relationship Standards (Not Hopes)
Hope is not a strategy. If you want a great social life, you will need to engineer it. Great relationships are a result of your decisions, not luck. Your task: Write: - 5 standards for how you show up to social interactions - 5 standards for who you allow close Comment below: Share one standard you’ve been violating.
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@Daniel Munro I've always struggled with this. I never really learned it until recently. I have turned this around some, and have been working on it. Mixed results, getting more solid feeling with the few I am close to, but had one situation turn to rejection, which knocked me st first but I realised was because I was runnung nice guy patterns again and they failed again.
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@Travis Whitney Yes! Well articulated, I relate to the passivity. I have lived my part of most relationships and friendships as: a passive waiting for others , totally scared to have an opinion, type guy.
🔥 DAY 15 – Discipline Beats Motivation
Motivation is unreliable - too emotional to depend on. Discipline is different; it's a rational decision to do what is RIGHT rather than what feels good in the moment. Answer honestly: 1. What do I wait to “feel ready” to do? 2. What would disciplined action look like instead? Then choose one reminder you’ll follow regardless of your mood. E.g. I will often ask myself, “What is the best thing to do right now for my future self’s success?” Post below: “My discipline principle for this year is…”
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@Daniel Munro Great reminder of a really useful principle.
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Aaron Frater
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I am nearly 60. I am an artists, and was an art teacher. I have been in recovery a long time. I have struggled with CPTSD, ADHD for ever.

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