The Roommate Phase · 11 Marriage

The Roommate Phase

You pay bills together. You coordinate kid drop-offs. You watch Netflix. But you no longer know each other. This is the Roommate Phase. It is functional, but it is dangerous. We went through this phase in our early marriage, which facilitated our almost divorce over 20 years ago. Our parenting went into a sort of "divide and conquer" mindset. It was a slow progression, and we didn't even see it until it was too late and extreme disconnect and unhealthy habits were in place.

Disrupt the routine today. Ask a question that has nothing to do with logistics. "What can I do this week to help you feel supported?"

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