Your Core Strength Under Stress
I had a fascinating conversation recently with someone of the EII type. She shared how frustrating it can be when people don’t live up to her deeply felt sense of values. For her, introverted feeling (Fi) isn’t just a preference—it’s a 4-dimensional strength. She notices instantly when respect is lacking, when people aren’t being genuine, or when fairness is compromised. And in moments of stress, this core strength can actually feel like a burden: it becomes harder to give grace, and she finds herself growing impatient or short with others. I explained it to her like this: imagine standing on a mountain peak. That’s the level of awareness you have with your strongest function—it’s high, refined, and incredibly clear. But most people are climbing that mountain from much lower ground. They may not have the same dimensional depth in that area that you do. So the challenge is to practice empathy in an unexpected way—not just empathy for values, but empathy for the fact that others can’t always operate at the same altitude you do. I feel this myself with extroverted logic (Te), my core strength. When I’m stressed, I get shorter with people. I expect efficiency, clarity, and “common sense.” I get frustrated when things feel unnecessarily complicated or when people ask questions that, to me, have obvious answers. But again—it’s that mountain effect. I have to remember not everyone sees systems and efficiency the same way, and that’s okay. ✨ The truth is, every type has this experience. Under stress, our main function constricts. We expect others to “get it” at our level of dimensional awareness, and when they don’t, frustration builds. The growth challenge is to recognize this tendency and consciously extend grace. So here’s a question for you all: 👉 What’s your strongest function, and how does it show up in your daily life? Do you notice yourself becoming less forgiving with others in that area when you’re stressed? Would love to hear your reflections.