Patriarchy has been serving up roofied kool-aid And it’s time to stop gulping it down It might have you believing You’re a strong woman because you are low maintenance You’re a strong woman because you can “handle” poor treatment and misogyny You’re a strong woman because you can play with the big boys You’re a strong woman who can have casual s/x without needing more You’re a strong woman who can perform all the emotional and domestic labor of the family AND bring home a paycheck You’re a strong woman because you sacrifice yourself and lose your identity for the good of the family You’re a strong woman because you are an over-achiever and hard worker In my world, the strongest women are the ones who uncouple from the patriarchy Who recognize that they are worthy without performing anything- just in their own existence That they are a gift in and of themselves AND They are worthy of receiving gifts Gifts that aren’t just bestowed upon them But gifts that are self-curated Gifts that they have asked for Gifts that they are READY TO RECEIVE Join me starting this Friday in Ready to Receive where you divorce yourself from the patriarchal conditioning that has you performing instead of receiving https://www.skool.com/readytoreceive/about

Most of us feel more comfortable being of service to someone else But the juiciest, most vulnerable work is in answering this… “How would you like to be served?” The vulnerability comes from having to share our deepest desires And, as women, we are not used to this In the world we see other women torn down for going for what they want For being free And we often participate in that public shaming What would it look like to be in a space where we give permission instead of shaming other women into submitting to the patriarchy? In Ready to Receive we will find out what it’s like to be giving and be given permission Permission to receive Details: - 6 weeks of webinar format lessons that will be recorded - 6 weeks of live group practices, Q&A and guidance (not recorded) - Weekly on Fridays at 8:30 am to 10:30 am PDT starting May 8th - Cost $297 (limited time) - Starts May 8th https://www.skool.com/readytoreceive/about

Myth: Receiving means “being done to” Often we conflate receiving as “feminine” and giving as “masculine” and we see it in very specific ways in heterosexual intimacy (i.e.; penetrative sex). We begin to believe that it’s our obligation to “receive” what is given to us. This is bunk. In Ready to Receive I'll break this down and guide you through experiencing "receiving" somatically (in your body) so that you can become the cycle breaker for the next generation. Ready to Receive is my 6 week course. This is my first round of the course and it's your opportunity to get in before I officially launch at a deeply discounted rate. Details: 6 weeks of webinar format lessons that will be recorded 6 weeks of live group practices, Q&A and guidance (not recorded) Weekly on Fridays at 8:30 am to 10:30 am PDT. Cost $297 (limited time) Got questions? Put them in the chat! Ready to join and become Ready to Receive?- here's the link! https://www.skool.com/readytoreceive/about

A truly sexually empowered woman does not PERFORM eroticism She slows down and she notices what is happening in her body She is not looking to the outside to be desired or feel validated She values herself first She is focused on her own body and where pleasure and desire is showing up And she trusts what it tells her She even notices her own stress responses that might arise and she understands her patterns and believes herself when something feels "off" She asks questions and states her desire She does not manipulative, obfuscate or guess what someone else wants She is direct, secure and has her own back She does not give more of herself than is reciprocated She knows that she is enough She knows that she holds the power She does not need to wield it to get what she wants She already has want she wants And she discerns with whom and how she will share it

Hey, I’m curious… Have you ever been intimate with someone (whether a casual or close partner) and had something “surprising” done to you? You were DOWN, you were having fun and then BOOM- something unexpected and unwelcomed! I know I have. I was having sex for the first time with a man and next thing I know there’s a finger in my butt hole! And you know what I did…..I went along with it! I didn’t want it. I didn’t ask for it. I tried to feel some pleasure but it wasn’t there. I think I went into a freeze response about it even though I was still acting our intimacy. Then the next day I was angry! Or perhaps it’s more subtle than that. You feel unsettled after sex. It has moments but it never feels really juicy and satisfying. It doesn’t bring you closer, it leaves you with questions. For me I would often try to impress them with “skills” instead of asking what they really want. Or laying there receiving oral sex that felt like it wasn’t about me- it was something they wanted or solely trying to make me have an orgasm so they could feel like they achieved something. A lot of it boils down to this one thing… One of my teachers, Betty Martin, really hones in on this in The Wheel of Consent: The Art of Giving and Receiving. We don’t think about this but it’s really key- ➡️ WHO IS IT FOR? ⬅️ We don’t often think about who pleasure is for when we’re intimate. Instead we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s for everyone involved but do we ever really get clear about that? Are you ever asked how you want to be pleasured or do you ask how they want to be pleasured? Or do you rely on past experience with them (or even past partners) to “give” something you think they want? Are you able to ask for something or do you shrink yourself and fall into “giving” or “pleasing” mode? Is it easier to try to give rather than to receive? These are the things I'm tackling in my new course... Here is your chance to get clarity on giving and receiving and become READY TO RECEIVE.