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You think it's all about you and your pleasure so you keep putting it off. You are too busy with work, with family, with life and reclaiming your sovereignty and your pleasure seems a little indulgent. Yet everyday we are bombarded with more stories of women being harmed by men: trafficking, drugging, abuse, assault and all the horrors of us having things done to us that we don't want. But why am I talking about assault and pleasure? Aren't those two separate things? Yes AND often assault/boundary violations/losing your voice often occurs when we are seeking pleasure. Yes, even in our closest intimate relationships. I know because I have done this. I have overridden myself A LOT in the bedroom with partners whom I have trusted. Yet somehow I lost myself and my desire and instead went along with what was happening- even when I didn't want to. Why? So many reasons: -Biological and generational stress responses and the need for survival -Conditioning around pleasure and who it's for -Society shaming women for having desire -Patterns and rewards for overworking, over-performing and burning ourselves out And when we don't face those shadows, we pass that shit on to the next generation. Do you want the status quo for your daughter? Or for the next generation? I don't and I bet you don't either. I want everyone to know that bodily autonomy is their right and that there are ways to get better at noticing when they're overriding themselves. Start with reclaiming your connection to your own body in the Fuck Around (With Yourself) and Find Out work in the classroom here on Skool. Chime in if this resonates for you!

Are you in touch with your LIFE FORCE? So often we diminish our desires believing that it makes us selfish and greedy. We qualify our wants by acknowledging how fortunate we are but we even go further because we stop ourselves from wanting "too much." What if wanting is exactly what we're supposed to do? What if it's our LIFE FORCE and we are honoring our female ancestors and those who are suffering by not giving up on our own desires? Listen to Episode 26 of Juicy Bits with Carmen to rewrite the story of wanting. https://open.spotify.com/episode/7uzYMIOWnukOVjxvG7RcyD?si=I6P1rGw_Q8WMOJLJmHGOwg Sign up for online practices in receiving here. 4 Saturdays and 4 Tuesdays in April- you choose which one works for you and begin to tap into the practice of receiving instead of giving or over-functioning. https://desertsomatix.com/

Listen on Juicy Bits With Carmen- Episode 25 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1LWlLA3cYlDn3awXC5hPQP?si=KqPDcCPUTIer5TQF3dCiyA

You identify as a giving person and it’s something you feel good about You are the person who others rely on and it brings you purpose but isn't life more than that? Yet there are times when you would really love to just BE You feel a yearning for something beyond performing and giving to others You wish someone would show up for you in the same ways you do for others BUT You’re monopolizing being a GIVER and not allowing anyone to give to you yet you hold a secret (or not so secret) resentment about it What if you could stop identifying as the “giver” and were just present? Can you imagine being able to relax into savoring something you want and really enjoy it? Without shame or guilt Without feeling like you “should” be doing something Without isolating yourself because you are depleted and just need a break Without expecting others to be mind readers and know what it is that you want! What if you could feel regulated without having to do something for someone else? It’s time to fill your own bucket and give others the opportunity to do for you You’ve been so busy providing for others that you forgot about yourself. Let’s change that. You are invited to practice receiving. Simple, one-hour practices with others that help you understand how much you’re craving the ability to just be and not feel guilty. Practices that are safe, specific and nourishing. I've got online practices every Tuesday and Saturday in April. Sign up here: https://linktr.ee/desertsomatix