This might sound obvious, but it's not a common practice when people work on their stand up game:
There is no pressure on you to learn cool takedowns and have a wrestling-like style on your feet.
Yesterday I coached a young athlete, and I told her that you don't need to work on a lot of takedowns.
Whats more important for her as a bottom player is not to be scored on, feel confident on her feet and take the match to the ground on her terms.
That does not mean, you have to score a takedown.
Yes, eventually you want to have 1 or to go to takedowns, should you need points,
but this is not where you have to start.
So what we are working one?
Getting into wrestling clinches and grips, and then pull the guard. On her terms!
What you need is to know what kind of game you want to play, and use your wrestling skills to the advantageous position.
An example of that would be:
Underhook and collar tie-pull the guard straight into butterfly guard(and of course immediately start outbalancing).
As opposed to: double wrist control, pull the guard and then work towards your butterfly guard.
I will record some vids on it, but meanwhile, just keep that inn mind and think where do you want to go once you pull the guard, and then use your stand-up to shortcut your way there.