When stress shows up, we feel it. Yet, stress can be hard to define. What I experience as stress you may experience as excitement (or vice versa). Not sharing a common stress definition makes understanding someone else's stress harder. Why does this matter? Keep reading. I discovered two useful stress definitions. 1) Stress: the body's non-specific response to any demand. The demand can be good (think: gym workout or crossword puzzle) (source - Stress.org) 2) Stress: what happens when something you care about is at stake (source - Kelly McGonigal) Here's why this matters: When we understand different people experience stress in different ways, we can help them Transform Stress. We can listen, reflect with them, and reframe the demand/event so they feel renewal, connection, or strength again. Example: I had a friend worried about time. This person's calendar was full of tasks and events leaving little room for themselves. About 80% of these time demands were for other people: kids, career, life admin. Keeping up was tough. With no "way out," this friend felt increasing stress. Then, we were having coffee one morning. I quickly attuned to his stress: he was talking fast, a bit frantic in movement, and easily distracted. Knowing fitness was important to this person, I asked, "What's your favorite gym routine right now?" The response: quiet, still, face turning red. He hadn't been to the gym in almost a month (this is someone who routinely hit the gym 3 to 5 times a week... it's a need for him). When I could define stress, I could "see" the calendar time demands were moving his stress meter into the red (quiet, stillness, red face... definition 1 above). I could "see" what he cared about (hitting the gym routinely, fitness, health), was at stake... definition 2 above). When I could "see" these things, I could respond in ways that fostered renewal, connection, strength (pun intended). I could listen better (think: sit there and really hear him). I could relate deeper (think: reflect back what that demand must feel like). I could dance between friend and coach (think: he feels less alone and he feels supported, guided, and responsible to hit the gym again).

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