“I am confident.” “I am worthy.” “I am successful.” “I am enough.” “I deserve love.” “I am abundant.” We’ve all heard that repeating positive affirmations can change our lives. And there is nothing inherently wrong with affirmations. The problem is what we expect them to do. An affirmation is a positive belief you want to have—but don’t currently have. And that distinction matters. If you already genuinely believed, “I am worthy of love,” you probably wouldn’t need to repeat it 50 times in the mirror every morning. You’re repeating it because some part of you believes something else. Maybe: - I have to earn love. - I’m not good enough. - People eventually leave. - Money is difficult to come by. - Successful people are selfish. - I have to take care of everyone else first. - It’s dangerous to stand out. - If I fail, I’ll be humiliated. - I’m only valuable when I’m productive. - Wanting more makes me selfish. And here’s the part that often gets overlooked: You have been practicing those beliefs, too. Not necessarily by consciously repeating them to yourself, but through thousands of experiences, decisions, reactions, relationships, observations, and interpretations. For years. Maybe your entire life. So if you have spent decades reinforcing the belief “I’m not good enough,” and then spend five minutes saying “I am enough,” there can be a pretty significant conflict happening inside you. One part of you is saying: “I am enough.” Another part is saying: “No, you’re not. Remember everything that happened.” And the second voice usually has a lot more evidence. Your Beliefs Didn’t Come From Nowhere The beliefs you carry about yourself and the world were formed within a context. You learned from your family. You learned from your culture. You learned from religion, school, peers, media, relationships, and your community. You learned from what people told you. But you also learned from what you observed. You watched how the adults around you handled money, conflict, success, failure, affection, anger, relationships, work, and vulnerability.

This beautiful meditation that focuses on acceptance and forgivness. It's what i use when I wake up with on old bad memory swirling around my mind.

TAT is a simple but elegant EP method that allows you to achknowldge, forgive and release all the parts of an experience that activate triggers in the present about the past. In this video, I walk you through the process and explain each part.