Ifa, Nature, and the Sacred Power of Friendship
In Yoruba wisdom, friendship is considered the highest form of human relationship—above marriage, above blood ties, even above the bond between mother and child. That idea stopped me in my tracks. In the spiritual classroom of King’s Circle, there’s an audio interview I recorded in 2007 with Professor Wande Abimbola, one of the world’s leading authorities on Ifa and Yoruba culture, and the author of Ifa Can Mend Our Broken World. If you haven’t heard it, it’s available under the article “Ifa: The Path of Wisdom.” The teachings he shared then are still relevant today. One of the core principles Professor Abimbola speaks about is that Ifa is the worship of nature. In this worldview, nature is often regarded as greater than human beings. Humans themselves are considered divine—but only to a certain extent. Humility before life is built into the system. Another teaching he shared has stayed with me for years: in Yoruba culture, friendship is the pinnacle of human relationships. Friendship, he explained, helps us plan how to become successful in life. I’ve reflected deeply on why this might be so. My own sense is that a true friend may sometimes care more about your happiness than even a spouse. A friend is often less invested in defining you—and more invested in your freedom. They may support your growth, your becoming, and your authenticity without needing to possess or limit you. Which brings me to you. Why do you think friendship holds such an elevated place in Yoruba culture?And more personally what role has friendship played in your own becoming? I’d love to hear your reflections. If you’d like, I can also: