Fellowship, grief and a cigar
I spent several hours with a friend of mine Saturday who I haven't been able to see much because of his wife's sickness. She had cancer and he was overwhelmed trying to deal with that and take care of her. When she finally passed away, and I say finally as she is now out of pain, I reached out to him to see how he was doing and ask if he wanted to have a cigar. Fast forward six weeks and yesterday, he texted me that he would love to have a cigar. I knew he didn't have any so I had an Undercrown shade ready for him. It was a great 2-hour time where we got to talk about the memories of her and he opened up about the struggles that he was going through following her passing. They had been married for decades. We were able to also laugh about time spent together, and also dive into what the future might look like for him. I believe that without the cigar there wouldn't have been the fellowship. I have talked in the past about how it is a tool that can be used to bring people together. As he left I was struck by how exactly true that is. We would not have had the same conversation, opening up aboit feelings, tears and laughter, without that cigar.