Sep 1 • Ask the Community
C.A.L.M. Tip: Make the Next Step Clear
Before a difficult transition, try the C.A.L.M. Framework:
- Connect: Use a calm voice and acknowledge that the activity is ending.
- Assess: Consider what your child knows about what is ending and what happens next.
- Lead: Give a warning, a simple First–Then statement, and one limited choice.
- Maintain: Keep your language consistent, notice what happens, and adjust as needed.
Example:
“Two more minutes, then the tablet is finished. First shoes, then music. Red shoes or blue shoes?”
This may not prevent every difficult moment. The goal is to provide clearer information and a repeatable process.
Action: Choose one upcoming transition and write your First–Then statement below without sharing identifying information.
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C.A.L.M. Tip: Make the Next Step Clear
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