When we go through adversity, we don't get to choose our personality. We simply become whoever we need to be to make it through the night. That isn't a failure. It is a brilliant adaptation. Your anxiety was an alarm system. Your anger was a shield. Your silence was a hiding spot.
Respect the part of you that took the hit. It kept you alive. But ask yourself: Is this keeping me safe now, or is it keeping me stuck?
Reply "Surived" if you are ready to put the armor down.