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This is what I'm actually hearing
Here are things my clients said to me this week:
"I miss being the fun version of me."
"It's so stupid to even be worked up about this. There are people everywhere dealing with real problems."
"Success for me right now is not snapping at my teenager, not spacing out in the middle of a board meeting, and having enough energy at 7pm to do something other than doomscroll and drink Pinot Noir."
"I've coped with everything else. Why is this so hard?"
Did any of those sound familiar to you? Oof. I felt them. The stuff nobody's saying out loud but everyone is living.
You are not alone. Not in this chaotic month. Not in this season of holding everything together while something quietly shifts underneath. Not in this stage of life that nobody adequately prepared you for.
And before you discredit your experience and say something like "other people have real problems", (because I hear it constantly and it breaks my heart a little every time), your experience is a real problem.
Dismissing it doesn't make you noble. It just leaves you unsupported.
So. It's May-cember.
The end-of-year spiral where the calendar is full, the nervous system is fried, and everyone needs a
piece of you that you're not sure you have left.
This is not the time for a 12-step protocol. I'm going to give you two things that take under two minutes and actually work:
The Psychological Sigh
Your nervous system has a built-in reset button and most of us have never been taught to use it.
Double inhale through your nose — one breath in, then sneak in a little more air on top of it. Then one long, slow exhale through your mouth. All the way out.
That's it. One round shifts your CO2 balance, activates your parasympathetic nervous system, and tells your body: we are not being chased by something.
The 5-4-3-2-1 Ground
When your brain is spinning and you can't find the floor, this brings you back into your body in about 90 seconds.
Name, out loud or in your head:
5 things you can touch 4 things you can see 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste
Just your senses doing what they were designed to do: anchor you to right now, when your nervous system has decided right now is dangerous.
These are 2 small ways of not abandoning yourself in the middle of a hard moment.
And if you're in one of those moments right now, I want to know what it actually looks like for you.
Hit reply. Share what's hardest. Where do you need support that you're not getting?
Not the symptoms. The real thing. I'm building something and I want it to actually fit your life.
Christie x
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