Hello again all I am the wife of a WONDERFUL man who had attempted to keep the peace for the sake of both his daughter with his ex wife & our family. Due to this however my stepdaughter has been slipping through the cracks as she’s not in any way being prioritized by this decision. My husband has trusted her mother has had everything under control. As his ex has been saying his daughter’s academic journey has been doing great, he’s taken a backseat and allowed mom to handle things because if it ain’t broke right? My stepdaughter is now in middle school as of last year & currently in the 7th grade. Last year, my husband requested his daughter’s report card. We had made a deal with his daughter that for every good grade she had she would be rewarded. His daughter agreed, but the following visitation expressed to us that her mother would be giving the grades to her so she could tell us and obtain the reward. 👀 Excuse me!? That was not the deal. The deal was we see the report card and we reward accordingly. Her mother denied handing the report card over telling us that we didn’t need to see the report card and that we should trust that she would be honest about her grades. This prompted a full on investigation led by me the peacekeepers wife. As I contacted the school and learned that there was a parent portal that was accessible to the parents of the students attending the school, where the grades would be posted, along with her attendance assignments, and any other information going on with the student. To our surprise, this was not something that was ever brought up to us or even discussed with us by the mother. After getting all the necessary access codes and making our own parent profile to our surprise, our baby girl was struggling and was so far behind that at this point, the school was offering assessment plans to better understand what was going on with her home life, her mental progress, and any other areas that may be conflicting with her academic journey.

Let’s get to know each other! - Stepmom since 2019 - So far biggest lesson learned was be the supportive adult that you wish you had and the biggest win was hearing my SD tell me how much she loves me & for me to “fight for her”! - My survival station is everywhere and anywhere! - But here’s a photo of my little gremlins! YOUR TURN! - How long have you been a stepmom? - What’s your biggest win or lesson so far? - Bonus: Show us your “survival station” (aka your couch, desk, bathtub… wherever you decompress) Smallest : Bio Daughter | Rosie | 4 | undiagnosed Middle : Step Daughter | Marie | 12 | neurodivergent Biggest : Bio Son | Julius | 18 | autistic Would life be easier if Bio-Mom just played ball with you & allowed her emotions to sit passenger to the best interest of her daughters needs?