Aug 20 • General discussion
It’s time.
Hello again all I am the wife of a WONDERFUL man who had attempted to keep the peace for the sake of both his daughter with his ex wife & our family. Due to this however my stepdaughter has been slipping through the cracks as she’s not in any way being prioritized by this decision.
My husband has trusted her mother has had everything under control. As his ex has been saying his daughter’s academic journey has been doing great, he’s taken a backseat and allowed mom to handle things because if it ain’t broke right? My stepdaughter is now in middle school as of last year & currently in the 7th grade. Last year, my husband requested his daughter’s report card. We had made a deal with his daughter that for every good grade she had she would be rewarded. His daughter agreed, but the following visitation expressed to us that her mother would be giving the grades to her so she could tell us and obtain the reward. 👀
Excuse me!?
That was not the deal. The deal was we see the report card and we reward accordingly.
Her mother denied handing the report card over telling us that we didn’t need to see the report card and that we should trust that she would be honest about her grades.
This prompted a full on investigation led by me the peacekeepers wife. As I contacted the school and learned that there was a parent portal that was accessible to the parents of the students attending the school, where the grades would be posted, along with her attendance assignments, and any other information going on with the student.
To our surprise, this was not something that was ever brought up to us or even discussed with us by the mother. After getting all the necessary access codes and making our own parent profile to our surprise, our baby girl was struggling and was so far behind that at this point, the school was offering assessment plans to better understand what was going on with her home life, her mental progress, and any other areas that may be conflicting with her academic journey.
At this point, I was in full contact with every member involved with the assessment plan. Email after email, question after question, we found ourselves mid dispute with the instructors and personnel who was part of the IEP plan. To our surprise, they believed that her mother had full custody of her and that due to this we needed to provide paperwork to prove otherwise. As frustrating as it was, I provided them with everything they needed, and yet they were still hesitant on answering any questions that we had. After about three weeks of back-and-forth, we have learned that the mother wasn’t even interested in partaking of this assessment plan therefore we were going back back-and-forth for no reason.
But why wouldn’t the mother want to go along with the assessment plan seeing that her daughter was struggling severely with almost every subject in school?
To our surprise, the mother‘s reason was because “my daughter is not special!”
And with that began our aggressive involvement in our daughters education & because of the difficulties we were having due to the misinformation her mother was carelessly putting out, we began building a master timeline to bring for the judge so we could modify the current order and see to it that the changes made would reflect around our daughter’s best interest and not around who is the better parent. Our daughter saying this new behavior has begun to confidently confide in us about actions that she felt would also help the changes being made to suit her best interest.
With that it was time for us to find a mediator and start the process to help our daughter to drive and not feel as though she was not the priority because she’s so very much was, is an always will be!
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