Do you ever find yourself awake at 2 a.m. wondering if you’re still a recurring character in someone else’s story? My brain does this from time to time, usually starting with something specific like my Grad Night date at Disneyland in the late ’80s. I wonder if she ever thinks of me, or if I’ve been entirely edited out of her personal history. Then the spiral continues to former coworkers, old crushes, and people I haven't spoken to in decades.
It is a strange realization that we all carry around these mental ghosts of people who have moved on to entirely different lives.
I find the inevitable fade into obscurity kind of liberating. People get so worked up about legacies and being remembered forever, but I have decided to keep my final resting place a secret. If I am going to be the person, like 99% of the rest of us, whose grave eventually no one visits, I would rather just be a permanent mystery than a forgotten landmark. I have even put it in my will that my body is to be composted and distributed in a secret place known only to one person.
Does your brain ever take you down these rabbit holes, or are you better at staying in the present than I am?
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