I’ve recently got to that amazing place as a leader where I’ve got an extremely talented driven team whose experience and knowledge surpasses mine. Many leaders proclaim that this is the end goal for every great team and I absolutely agree with them! What I wasn’t ready for was that sudden moment of realization that I don’t know how to lead a team like that. In my 15 years as a leader, I’ve strived for but have never been able to get to that state. I had that moment 2 weeks ago and it turned into one of the hardest work weeks of my life as I tried to wrestle with how to lean into the almost gut-wrenching feeling of ‘what do I do now?’ & ‘how do I put my money where my mouth is?’ I instantly saw why this leadership style isn’t more wide-spread, it requires vulnerability and a level of self-awareness most people aren’t comfortable with. It would have been so easy to pull back and lean into my ‘authority’ as a leader but I made a conscious decision against that. I’m still trying to figure it out and I’m bound to make a few mistakes along the way, but below are a few key actions I took to lean into the feeling: - Be honest with your team that you’re struggling! If you’ve truly built a team that you have empowered to work in their mastery and given them the psychologically safe space to be their best, that empowerment and safety should exist for you too! Showing vulnerability in this way will be hard and isn’t going to feel very good at first but when a leader demonstrates vulnerability it shows your team they are safe to do so as well. - Lean into your Mentors. On my worst day of the week that I had the moment of realization, I happened to have a call scheduled with my mentor and the entire call was spent on this topic. I scheduled lunch with my old boss later in the week who I knew also dealt with the same realization multiple times as he had changed careers. They both validated what I was feeling and told me how they got through. - Journal, Journal, Journal. I spent nearly 3 hours and jotted down 8 pages of notes of what was going through my mind and what I was feeling in my body as I worked through the realization. Journaling is something that falls to the wayside far too often but can be a huge help of uncluttering your mind and setting a course. Putting it on paper or in a digital journal forces you to work through from start to finish your thoughts and feelings.