A few days ago, I had a conversation with one of my mentees. She was worried because she felt like she was losing her friends.
She’s building something. She’s focused. Her days are full.
And suddenly, she doesn’t have the same energy to hang out, stay on long calls, or keep up with conversations that don’t really go anywhere.
I told her something important:
When God is about to elevate a woman, He sharpens her discernment.
What used to excite you will start to repel you.
The bare minimum will bore you.
Inconsistency will exhaust you.
People who drain you will feel heavier than they ever did before.
You’re not becoming cold.
You’re becoming clear.
You’ll notice you’re less tolerant of chaos, mixed signals, and low effort.
Those endless group chats? You’ll mute them. Some, you’ll leave completely.
Not out of arrogance, but because where you’re going, you can’t afford emotional leaks.
Your time, focus, and energy suddenly feel expensive.
So yes, it can feel like you’re losing people.
Like your circle is shrinking.
Like you’re outgrowing rooms faster than you expected.
But sometimes it’s not a loss.
It’s alignment.
If you’re in that season where everything feels quieter, lonelier, and more intentional, don’t panic.
You’re not losing your life.
You’re upgrading it.
And growth will always ask for space.