Council Fire is at 10am PST tomorrow!

We talk a lot (the royal We) about self questioning, but what does that actually mean? Let me share a story from recently: I have a problem with my husband drinking. He doesn't become mean, or rude. He is not abusive. He doesn't yell. We don't fight. What did was disappear.... he withdrew into himself. Years ago, I told him he needed to stop drinking. And he did. He chose me and our life over alcohol. Recently, he's been going to a friend's house and having a single White Claw. It's social for him, and one of the only ways he can relax in order to socialize. Last night, I felt upset about it. But what happened was that I allowed my frustration to show me what is mine, and where I was projecting on to him. He has been following the rules I set forth (no drinking at the house, no coming home drunk, no withdrawing, etc). So I ended up asking myself: Why am I upset? What is my reasoning? Am I upset with him, or am I projecting responsibility for my triggers on to him? Turns out, when I had an honest conversation with myself, i was projecting on to him. He is not responsible for my triggers. He is not doing anything "wrong." It was sobering for me. That is self questioning.

This is not a discussion to solve or debate. It is a practice of naming what is true and letting it be witnessed. This is a practice of "sitting with it." How this works: Read the Call slowly. Respond from the body, not the polished mind. When replying to others, offer reflection, not advice. Begin with: “I hear…”, “I witness…”, or “What this stirs in me…” CALL: Where in your life are you standing at a threshold, even if you haven’t chosen to name it yet? What is loosening, unraveling, or asking to be released? RESPONSE (your share): One sentence is enough. Fragments are welcome. Silence is also a response (return when ready) WITNESSING OTHERS: Do not fix. Do not interpret. Do not redirect.

This week I’m noticing things first in the body, not the mind. A place of holding. A place of ease. A place that’s asking for attention, or rest. For me, it’s a quiet tightness in my throat. Not urgent. Just present. If you want to respond, you’re welcome to name where you feel yourself today. A body place. A sensation. Even just “here.” No fixing or explaining. Listening is also participation. We are not assigning meaning. We are simply noticing.

I’m going to name something quietly. Small spaces can feel louder than big ones. When there’s depth in the room, it can feel like you need to arrive fully formed to speak at all. That’s not what this is for. This space isn’t a performance and it isn’t a proving ground. It’s a place to show up mid-thought, mid-feeling, or not very clear at all. There’s no expectation to be deep here. No expectation to be consistent. No expectation to share anything polished. Today feels like a holding day for me. Nothing profound. Just present.