What is your preferred type of woman? How would you describe her? What features does she have? What are her strengths, weaknesses? What draws you to her? Some general types: the Alpha (strong, smart, talented, sexy, radiant, masculine), the Lillith (soft, feminine, introspective), the Granola (vegan, active, 3 dogs), the Exotic (mysterious, dark, mystical), the Freak (partier, sexy, fun, enabler). What others do you see out there?

If you lose interest, exit with grace and courtesy. No ghosting. That makes us all look bad. Matches: if the conversation has dwindled or stopped, perhaps she's taking a pause from the app. Or perhaps she has other matches grabbing her attention. If there's no more energy there or she hasn't responded to you in a while, don't take it personally, just send a quick note wishing her the best of luck, forget about it, and unmatch. You don't have to have any other reason. If you've been hot and heavy in your conversation but someone else captures your attention, ease out of the cadence with her gracefully, but no lies or ghosting. It's okay to let her know that your attention has gone elsewhere, but do it tactfully, honestly, and keep it brief and clear, like a man would. Post first date: She's nice but didn't light you up or meet your expectations (that's another topic for later). You had a nice conversation but you couldn't envision anything going further. Don't leave then go unmatch or ghost her. Be courteous of her time and let her know you weren't feeling it. She probably wasn't either. Don't wait for her to say what needs to be said. Say it, wait for her response (it may be that she unmatches without responding which should tell you something about her), then respond accordingly: like her message, wait a while, then unmatch (or continue the dialogue, but why?!). Here's an example: (see image) She went on to say it was like a "conversation with a colleague" which encapsulates my experience exactly. No harm, no foul, and cost an hour and $14 for coffees to know my answer. Remember: every no gets you closer to a yes.

Yes, she's super fine and lights you up immediately. She knows she has options, she knows she is high value and she seeks a "funny, tall, strong leader." She states clearly what she wants in her man and unless you are in the 14% of men globally over 6 feet, don't even try. Hit the X and move on. Unless.. You are funny, as in interesting and intelligent with a great sense of humor, then you unlock her physical requirements because you can light up her brain (which is the key to unlock her body). "Danielle" here (5'5" BTW) lists FUNNY before TALL in her profile. Open with your best and go from there you sexy jester!

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I was listening to Mark Manson (author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck) on the Modern Wisdom podcast (great episode btw) and they were talking about how neediness comes though in energy, words, actions, and behaviors and how unattractive that is to women. Women have a very dialed in intuition and can detect neediness. So when you jump into the dating world for whatever reason, don't be needy. Make sure you are grounded in what you want and be prepared to play the long, patient game. Don't get too excited about a match because it can go away as easy as it came, especially if you are deep down coming from a place of need. Explore with yourself what you really want. Do you want physical intimacy or do you need it? Do you want companionship or do you need it? Do you want a long term partner or do you need it? To want something you don't have but are willing to put in the time and effort - and be patient - you will find it. If you are chasing a need, it will keep running from you. Know the difference. The best way to not be needy is to do the work on yourself that you know you need to do. Be the man you would want to date if you were the woman you are seeking. Be ready and show up as who you are and knowing what you want. Be willing to walk away when it's not right for you. Pick the top three things that are non-negotiable and negotiate the rest. Know what you definitely do not want and pass by those who display signs of that...those are your red flags. Don't waste your time projecting fantasy potential onto someone who doesn't meet your criteria. She's out there, know what you want and you will find her.