When it comes to relationships, keep them spicy and saucy. Never stop having fun and enjoying each other. For instance, I'd stayed overnight at my boyfriend's house. The next morning he got up and started his normal morning routine. Went into the bathroom, listened to the days Bible verse, got in the shower... I sat on the floor outside of the bathroom, meditation 🧘‍♀️ pose, waiting for him to open the door. When he did, he said, "oh good Lord ", lol. Wish someone could have captured his face when he saw me because I would have loved to have seen it! I told him I was manifesting the most beautiful man of a human being... he's tall... mmmm.mmm.mmmm, (my eyes were still closed) told him I heard the sounds like rain (the shower), then the chimes, "Bing Bing, Bing" (his wake up alarm went off while he was in the shower)... I opened my eyes and exclaimed, "it worked!!! Look at you!!" 😆 🤣 Gotta keep the fun in those relationships. I mean, how is that for a way to start your morning? Do you guys start your mornings like this? Even if it's not a romantic partnership, I used to do fun things like this to and for my daughter when she was here to. Just small things to remind them to have fun and that we love them.

Today, let’s play a little SoulFire game! Sometimes connection isn’t found in the big romantic gestures… It’s the tiny, hilarious, wonderfully human things we notice about each other. I’ll start: When someone remembers how you take your coffee or tea…or your favorite pastry... or texts “ let me know when you made it home safe”… or gives that soft smile that says “I see you, and I’m glad you’re here.” Your turn: What’s one small, simple gesture that makes you feel genuinely cared for? It can be romantic, friendly, family… anything that warms your heart or cracks you up. Drop it below. Let’s see what little signals of love and connection look like in our sisterhood today. Because sometimes the smallest moments reveal the biggest truths about what we need and what we value in the people around us.

Dating apps trained many of us to treat partners like endlessly swappable options. That “infinite aisle” changes how our brains decide—and how much effort we invest once we’re in a relationship. What the science shows (Some of this info was also mentioned in the book Inner Excellence, which, I highly recommend). Too many options = shallower decisions. Classic experiments found that people buy less and feel less satisfied when they face 24 choices versus 6 (famously: 30% purchased with 6 jams vs 3% with 24). That’s “choice overload,” and it reliably hampers commitment-type decisions. Swiping fosters a rejection mindset. Across studies of online dating, acceptance rates dropped about 27% from the first to the last profile as people evaluated many options—people grew more pessimistic and pickier over time. App “abundance” can rattle self-esteem and fuel fear of being single, which increases choice overload—a loop that makes real commitment harder. Long-term glue still looks old-school: commitment rises when satisfaction is high, alternatives feel less attractive, and investments (time, care, shared goals) are meaningful—Rusbult’s Investment Model has decades of data behind it. Day-to-day respect = perceived responsiveness. People who feel their partner “gets them” and shows up consistently report higher intimacy and satisfaction. That’s not moralizing; it’s attachment science. What this means for “girls’ night” and attire. It’s not about policing outfits; it’s about signals and shared meaning. Couples who co-create clear, mutual boundaries (“what reads as respect for us?”) protect perceived responsiveness and commitment. The clothes are a proxy; the real lever is your agreement about representing the relationship...together. My own coaching add-ins: 1. Shrink the menu (deliberately). Set “option hygiene”: fewer apps, limited swiping windows, and periodic app sabbaticals. Teach clients to trade breadth for depth. (This is how you beat choice overload.)

Posting this in the **Relationships and Connection ** category because I believe it's where it best fits since I'm hoping to learn a little more about you and what sort of things are on your mind. In this stage of your life, I am having the most difficulty with __________________. When it comes to health and wellness, I could use a little help with _____________. If I could snap my fingers my most exceptional life look like________________. (Provide all the details. What job are you doing? Where are you living? What are you wearing? Where are you going? What would your perfect day look like? ) In my relationships, I'm feeling _______ about them right now? One way I might be able to improve my relationships would be ____________. I would like to see ___________ in my relationships over the next year. What's one area of growth I need to improve in is____________? And one way I can start to make that happen is by __________. Thank you all very much for helping with this. You can copy and paste with your answers in the comments below 👇 @Terri Villanueva @Dana Gobert @Peggy Gervais @Robbin Kaifesh @Lori Anne Phillips @Mary Ruff @Rachel Navalany @Cindy Richins @Sara Collum @Caron Warnicke

Hello everyone! I can not tell you how excited I am to have you here at SoulFire Sisterhood! Sincerely, I mean that with all my heart ❤️ 🔥 My name is Spring Whipple and I'm in Phoenix, Arizona. In college I studied psychology, sociology, human behavior and, philosophy. Invited and accepted into the National Honor Society, and National Honor Society in Psychology. I'll always be a student in life. I've earned multiple certifications through accredited schools for specialized subjects in life coaching and held personal training certifications from NASM, ACE, ISSA NCCPT, and studied nutrition through the Institute for Integrated Nutrition. I simply enjoy helping people and knew that was my purpose as a teenager. Was married for 26 years (half my living life at the time) have 3 adult children all living and doing well on their own. I've got two dogs I adopted 6 months ago from a rescue. Zeusy Blue Teddy Bear and Little Miss Mollie Mae. Something I struggle with is consistency and discipline. Always a work in progress! What I'm looking to gain by being a member of this community is achieving my goal of positively impacting one million people. Fun Fact About myself is I used to be a natural competitive physique and bodybuilding competitor. Proudest moment we placing second behind one of my very good friends at the INBA/PNBA Natural Universe in women's bodybuilding.