Hey Super-Parents, Let's get real for a moment. Is today one of those days where your parenting doesn't feel "on point"? That's more than okay. Your parenting doesn't have to be perfect, and your house doesn't have to be spotless. As solo parents, we're juggling a dozen things at once. When life throws curveballs, it's easy to get frustrated, and a messy house can feel like the one thing that pushes you over the edge. Give yourself grace. It’s the same journey our kids are on. They are learning to navigate a world of big, confusing emotions. Just as they have off-days, we do too. Staying calm through the rollercoaster of a tantrum is one of the hardest things we do. Simply by trying, you are succeeding. We are parenting differently than previous generations. For many of them, the focus was on the appearance of being a good parent, not always on fostering a true connection or validating a child's feelings. Crying was something to be silenced, often with aggression. A child's challenging behavior was a trigger to be shut down. This created generations of adults who are now battling to heal and find their true selves. But we are the cycle-breakers. We are open to learning and adapting. We prioritize connection, validate our kids' emotions, and strengthen our bond above all else. Because of this, the next generation will be stronger and more emotionally intelligent. We are all learning, adapting, and growing right alongside our children. This is our superpower. We are setting the new standard for parenting. What's one thing you're learning (or unlearning) on your parenting journey this week? Share in the comments!

Hey superparents, Let's talk about super connection, because as solo parents, that's one of our most defining superpowers. It's not always easy, especially when you're just boarding this ship. There's a sea of emotions, challenges, grief, and difficulties when we first find ourselves on this journey. Some of us might even feel disassociated in the beginning, asking, "What do I do now? How am I going to live with this?" And that's totally okay. Your life and the lives of your children have just been through a major earthquake. The good news is that on this newly shaped ground, you can build a better life, a new life, and a super connection with your kids. They deserve your best, and you deserve to see yourself thrive. There's a process of awakening that will happen. Get ready for it. Tune in to your networks of friends and family. Self-care isn't a luxury; it's a necessity. Make space for it, not just for your physical health but for your mental and emotional well-being. Your life has changed, and your goals will be different now. For me, creating a new dream was one of the most difficult tasks. You have to find the light in the middle of a very foggy environment. But in that fog, lighthouses begin to appear. Your kids become a lighthouse, guiding you to set up your new life and goals. Be clear with them. A simple conversation like, "Things are different now, and we're a new kind of team. We'll work together to make our family amazing," can change everything. Your emotions are another lighthouse. When a simple tantrum feels like the world is ending, that's okay. You're allowed to feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Acknowledging your feelings without judgment is a superpower. It’s a beacon telling you what you need to pay attention to. And maybe the brightest lighthouse of all? The personal triggers that come up. In the midst of it all, your own childhood difficulties will surface. This isn't a curse; it's a profound opportunity to work on yourself and break generational cycles.

Hey Superparents, We all know the self-care speech. But let's be real: finding the time and energy for it can feel like another impossible task on our endless to-do list. A simple walk can be a game-changer, but sometimes the stress we carry is heavier. It comes from parenting, work, our own emotional rollercoasters, and especially from high-conflict co-parenting. That kind of stress isn't just in our heads; it's in our bodies. As Bessel van der Kolk says in his book, The Body Keeps the Score. Our bodies hold onto tension and trauma. When we get triggered, that stored energy can erupt, often when we least want it to—like in the middle of a tense moment with our kids. Healing is a marathon, not a sprint. But while we're on this journey, physical activation is one of our greatest superpowers. It's how we move that stuck energy out. Your Superhero Workout: Choose Your Mission Not every hero fights the same way. Find the movement that works for YOU. For Releasing Anger & Frustration (The Hulk Smash): - High-Intensity Workouts: Think sprinting, boxing (a punching bag or even a pillow works!), or fast-paced circuit training. Let that raw energy out! - Loud Music Dance Party: Put on your favorite high-energy playlist and just move in your living room. No rules, no judgment. Stomp, jump, and shake it all out. - "Primal Scream": Seriously. Find a private space (your car is perfect for this) and let out a good, loud yell. It's a physical release of pent-up emotion. For Releasing Stress & Anxiety (The Zen Master): - Yoga or Stretching: Focus on deep breaths and long holds. This helps calm the nervous system and release physical tension you didn't even know you were holding. (Tons of free videos on YouTube!) - Mindful Walking: Instead of rushing, pay attention to the feeling of your feet on the ground, the air on your skin, the sounds around you. It gets you out of your head and into your body. - Swimming: The feeling of being supported by water can be incredibly calming and is a fantastic full-body workout.

Hey superparents, Let's talk about one of the toughest, unspoken challenges of solo parenting: the quiet house. You walk in the door after a drop-off, and the home is exactly as they left it. Toys on the floor, a small pair of shoes by the entrance, the faint scent of their shampoo in the bathroom... but the only sound is silence. That silence can be deafening, can't it? As solo parents, we run on a special kind of fuel. We can be bone-tired but somehow find that extra burst of energy for a bedtime story, a last-minute school project, or just a comforting hug. We are their constant, their rock. But what happens when that demand suddenly stops? When the house goes quiet, and instead of feeling relief or motivation to tackle your to-do list, a wave of sadness and anxiety washes over you? First, know this: Your feelings are completely valid. Your mind starts to wander. Are they okay? Are they having a good time? Sometimes, your intuition kicks in, and you just have a feeling that things aren't perfect in the other home. It's a heavy burden to carry, knowing you can't be there to fix it in that moment. Here’s a crucial reminder for when that worry creeps in: This time apart is part of their journey. They are learning to navigate different environments, habits, and relationships. They are building resilience and developing their own unique personalities. Even when you are their "safe harbor," allowing them to experience both homes is essential for their growth. Our job is to be that consistent, loving space they can always return to, ready to help them decompress and settle back in. This doesn't make missing them any easier. So for those times when the silence feels too loud, let's be intentional. Instead of letting the sadness take over, let's build habits that refill our own cups. Here are a few things to try: - 1. Create a 'Transition Ritual'. The moment you get home, mark the shift. Don't just drift into the quiet. Put on your favorite album, light a candle, take a long uninterrupted shower, or make a cup of tea you can actually finish while it's hot. This small act signals to your brain that this is now your time.

Hey Superparents, Being a single parent can be exhausting sometimes. You get to do double the work, provide, support, find time with your kids, carve out time for yourself, clean the house, run all kinds of errands, and still try to be a functional person. The key component to being in a good mood is rest. Of course, we get to rest, but what really is rest? I want to talk to you about mindful rest. This happens to all of us: just because you had some time to yourself doesn't mean that you're actually resting. You can have hours of "downtime," but if you don't use it intentionally, you can end up feeling like you didn't rest at all—or sometimes, even more tired. Think about what happens when we get that precious time. We fall into the trap of doomscrolling, where our minds dissociate but don't rest. Or, we can't stop the mental marathon of everything we have to do. Our bodies are sitting, but our minds are sprinting, ruminating on "what-if" scenarios. The point is, when we get free time, we should maximize it. So, how do we do that? The Psychology of a Wandering Mind Here’s a fascinating psychological fact: Our brains have a "Default Mode Network" (DMN). This is the part of your brain that activates when you aren't focused on a specific task. What does it do? It replays memories, worries about the future, and overthinks social situations. This is why just "doing nothing" can feel so exhausting—your brain isn't actually resting, it's running a chaotic highlight reel of anxieties! Mindful rest is the practice of intentionally disengaging this network to give your mind a real break. 3 Tips to Make Your Rest Count Here are three practical ways to practice mindful rest and truly recharge: 1. The "Sensory Reset" Instead of grabbing your phone, take 60 seconds to anchor yourself in the present moment using your senses. This forces your brain out of its default worry mode. - How to do it: Wherever you are, softly name: - 5 things you can see (the pattern on the rug, a pen on the table). - 4 things you can feel (the warmth of your coffee, your feet on the floor). - 3 things you can hear (the hum of the fridge, a car passing by). - 2 things you can smell (the lingering scent of breakfast, soap on your hands). - 1 thing you can taste (your toothpaste, a sip of water).