Freedom Friday: The Freedom to Fall Apart (So You Can Grow) 🦞✨

Your life has changed. The life you used to have, the dreams you built, the family photos you imagined taking, they are not the same. And they never will be.

It is brutally hard. You go back to a lonely house. Family reunions feel different. You might be asking yourself: "I am a strong person. I handle everything. Why is this destroying me?"

The Truth: It hurts because you aren't just grieving a relationship; you are grieving a future. You are grieving a version of yourself. And often, you are hurting because of someone else’s bad choices, yet you are the one left standing strong, holding the roof up for your family.

The "Instagram Healing" Trap Society tells us healing looks like reading a book by a window with a matcha latte. Real healing is nothing like that. Real healing is dark. It is messy. It is going into the deepest parts of yourself to talk to your inner child and say, "I know this hurts. I am here."

The Book Connection: Shattered Shores In The Boy with the Blue Bike, Leo and Jasper build magnificent towers on the beach in the "Shattered Shores" chapter. But then, the tide comes in.

"The castles collapse and are washed away by the waves... The cubes look like they are melting into the ocean water."

Leo has to accept that the structure is gone. But because the structure is gone, the sand is free to be shaped into something else.

There is a psychological concept for this called Post-Traumatic Growth. Psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun found that people who endure the destruction of their "life script" often experience positive psychological change because of the struggle, not in spite of it.

Think of a lobster. 🦞 A lobster is a soft animal that lives inside a rigid shell. That shell does not expand. As the lobster grows, that shell becomes confining and painful. The lobster feels under pressure and uncomfortable. It has to go into a dark rock formation, cast off its shell, and produce a new one. The stimulus for the lobster to grow is the discomfort.

Your Superpower Today If you are in pain, it means you are growing. You are shedding the old shell—the old expectations, the old life, the things you don't need anymore to make your journey lighter.

You have to feel it to heal it. Sit with the pain. Let it crack the shell. Because life after the "shedding" isn't just different, it can be happier. You know yourself now. You are lighter.

👇 Let’s support each other: If you could shed ONE heavy feeling today to make your journey lighter this weekend, what would it be? (Guilt? Anger? The need to be "perfect"?)

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