Parents Do you ask “Why are you doing this?”

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𝗧𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝟮𝟰𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿

𝟴:𝟬𝟬𝗽𝗺 𝗠𝗲𝗹𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲, 𝗔𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗮 (𝗔𝗘𝗦𝗧)

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that asking “𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀?” doesn’t always get you very far with a child who is already overwhelmed.

Sometimes they genuinely don’t know.

That’s why I’ve become much more interested in the questions we ask 𝗮𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 the reaction.

What happened just before it?

What changed and when?

What was happening in the room?

What became active in the parent?

Has this same pattern happened somewhere else and is there a connection?

And what might the child be experiencing underneath the behaviour that they can’t yet explain?

That’s the kind of exploration we do inside my weekly Energy-Wise Parenting live calls.

If you’re parenting a sensitive, ADHD or neurodivergent child and there are reactions in your home that leave you thinking, “𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗵 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱?”, bring one of those moments along.

We’ll slow it down and look at what may be worth noticing before assuming the behaviour itself is the whole story.

𝗧𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝟮𝟰𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿

𝟴:𝟬𝟬𝗽𝗺 𝗠𝗲𝗹𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲, 𝗔𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗮 (𝗔𝗘𝗦𝗧)

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Parents Do you ask “Why are you doing this?”