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Not my job
Lately, we’ve gotten into the habit of having dinner at my place every night. Makes my son happy. Then we watch TV for a while. This is a boundary that I have actively been working on.
Last night, my son didn’t want dad to stay after we ate, and my ex looked at me and asked what he was supposed to do while he waited for the time he was scheduled to door dash. I gave him a list of things, all of which he rejected.
I finally told him that “it’s not my job to entertain you.”
said many times we have been treated as if we were their property that it takes strength to say this isn’t mine to deal with, but yours and you handle it.
Boundaries are tough and so is sticking to them.
But I cannot tell you how HAPPY and RELAXED I felt last night! I got good quality time with my son, better sleep, and on time sleep, because I wasn’t keyed up from him being there until 30 minutes before I start settling down.
I’ve decided that I’m entering my REAL SELF Era, and if standing up for myself makes me mean, hateful, rude, bitchy, then, dammit, that’s what I am.
The only people who don’t like/respect your boundaries are those that the boundaries protect you from
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Not my job
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