How Important Is Initial Physical Attraction?

Dawn Bennett

Apr 15 • Singles

You know what sucks about holding speed dating events and listening to people's dating stories? 😢

Watching good people choose partners based on how fun, hot, or charming someone is without evaluating deeper-

And then feeling disappointed, blindsided hurt, and jaded and when things fall apart.

It’s not because they weren’t trying.

It’s because no one ever taught them how to look deeper.

Not just “Is there physical attraction & chemistry?” (the worst way to pick someone to date)

But:

🔹 Does that person show up, behave, and interact in the world in the way I desire my partner to be?

🔹 Do we value the same kind of life?

🔹 Can I be all of me and still feel safe, wanted, and respected?

That’s the difference between dating for now vs. choosing a partner for forever. (I really emphasise this in masterclasses & soulmate courses).

Lasting love isn’t about finding someone who looks good from the outside- as that will grow. (Seriously- do you do become more attracted to someone as you get to respect them on a deep soul level).

In addition my heart breaks at all the amazing people out there who say, "there's no one good left." Or "I can't even get a date" because of how others are choosing to interact in the dating world. 💔

If that hits... I’d love to hear from you. 👇

Comment- What is something you used to think was important in relationships and/or love… but now realize wasn’t enough?

I'd love to hear your experiences.

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