Last month I had a 2 day training event in Paris with my awesome coach. We decided to add a few extra days to make the most of being Paris. We walked almost 25k steps on this day, finishing our day at Arc De Triomphe. It was so nice to have a few days being outdoors and eating good food.

Since I am in my office a lot of the time I needed something bright 😁 and energising, B&Q tester pots and masking tape did the trick 😊

We all have an emotional home and just like the homes we live in we always return there, because it's familiar. Your emotional home is the place you return to when you get annoyed, frustrated, stressed, made to feel less than. For some people, their emotional home is anger, they react, defend, shout, shut people down, or push people away. For others, it is anxiety, they overthink, people-please, explain too much, apologise when they have done nothing wrong. For some people its resentment, they keep score, replay conversations and feel unappreciated. The challenge is, when we keep returning to the same emotional home, we keep repeating the same patterns in our relationships. The same arguments, the same guilt, regret and the same disconnection. This is why self-awareness of your emotional home matters, you cannot build a new relationship pattern while constantly returning to an old emotional state. You have to become aware of where you go emotionally when you get triggered. The questions to work on, do you go to attack mode, anger, cut the person off? Do you over explain, people please, have to prove you are right? Once you can recognise your emotional home, you can begin to choose whether you want to keep living there. Remember this, You are not your reaction! You are not your trigger! You are not the version of you that comes out when you feel unsafe! But until you learn to regulate your emotions, that version of you will keep taking over. There is no avoiding triggers but this work empowers you how to feel those emotions without letting them run your communication, your choices, and your relationships. What emotional home do you keep returning to when you are triggered? Let me know in the comments. DM me for information on my Emotional Triggers Bootcamp in June I have just 5 available spaces. To congratulate the action takers, the first two people will get a free 1:1 coaching session with me worth £150

What's your biggest challenge in your relationship right now 💔 and if I could should you to solve this in 3 days would you be interested? Let me know in comments.

Last nights event was something special, so many people getting clarity on understanding why they are struggling to manage their emotions (in the heat of the moment). We tend to seek or blame external factors when we get triggered... They hurt me with their words They made me feel like I didn't matter They don't recognise what I do for them The list is endless and reflects the patterns when we are not self-aware. These are exactly the words I would say before I discovered everything I teach today. I was emotionally reactive, felt hurt easily and struggled to manage my emotions when triggered. I got to the point when I hit my Enough is Enough, I have to change. I was done trying so hard to manage my emotions ( I wanted to change this behaviour so much, it was not me or how I wanted to show up). I was stuck wanting change and still being reactive, until I became self aware, before I discovered I had to do the internal work. This was the clarity my audience needed last night, that one big aha moment. A number are now ready to invest in themselves and get in full control of their emotions and regain connection in their relation ship by attending my Emotional Triggers Bootcamp. Here they will discover how to... Stop saying and doing the things you regret, even in the heat of the moment End the cycle of the same arguments and blow ups, because you can regulate and stay calm and intentional Communicate what you need clearly without blame, over-explaining, or people-pleasing Repair fast and reconnect, no more hours or days of silence, guilt, or distance after a disagreement Protect trust in hard moments, you stay regulated, so your partner feels safe, your relationship stays connected Share, DM or tag anyone you feel this could help. In a world where staying in control of your emotions is seriously lacking, my motto is simple, share with one.