Some times a simple misunderstanding disconnects us from the people we hold dear The worse bit is simply not understanding what you did wrong, you feel like you said the right things and would never intentionally say anything to hurt them, or anyone, so your mind runs on repeat what did I do? What makes the situation harder if the other person has limitations in communication (communication skills on a deeper level), the situation can turn to complete disconnection. They fail to share how they experienced you, how it felt, they just completely disconnect from you. This is why I believe enhancing your communication skills and awareness is so vital. When you communicate only 7% is words, 38% is tonality and 55% is body language and when one of these is not in alignment you fail to come across as congruent. This means even if you say the right things if your tonality and or body language don’t support your words, what you say is not going to be received in the way you intended. If this resonates feel free to join my free group to find out more https://www.facebook.com/groups/mariathemindsetcommunicatorw1red4success/ #relationships #communicationskills #NLPPractitioner

Last month I had a 2 day training event in Paris with my awesome coach. We decided to add a few extra days to make the most of being Paris. We walked almost 25k steps on this day, finishing our day at Arc De Triomphe. It was so nice to have a few days being outdoors and eating good food.

Since I am in my office a lot of the time I needed something bright 😁 and energising, B&Q tester pots and masking tape did the trick 😊

We all have an emotional home and just like the homes we live in we always return there, because it's familiar. Your emotional home is the place you return to when you get annoyed, frustrated, stressed, made to feel less than. For some people, their emotional home is anger, they react, defend, shout, shut people down, or push people away. For others, it is anxiety, they overthink, people-please, explain too much, apologise when they have done nothing wrong. For some people its resentment, they keep score, replay conversations and feel unappreciated. The challenge is, when we keep returning to the same emotional home, we keep repeating the same patterns in our relationships. The same arguments, the same guilt, regret and the same disconnection. This is why self-awareness of your emotional home matters, you cannot build a new relationship pattern while constantly returning to an old emotional state. You have to become aware of where you go emotionally when you get triggered. The questions to work on, do you go to attack mode, anger, cut the person off? Do you over explain, people please, have to prove you are right? Once you can recognise your emotional home, you can begin to choose whether you want to keep living there. Remember this, You are not your reaction! You are not your trigger! You are not the version of you that comes out when you feel unsafe! But until you learn to regulate your emotions, that version of you will keep taking over. There is no avoiding triggers but this work empowers you how to feel those emotions without letting them run your communication, your choices, and your relationships. What emotional home do you keep returning to when you are triggered? Let me know in the comments. DM me for information on my Emotional Triggers Bootcamp in June I have just 5 available spaces. To congratulate the action takers, the first two people will get a free 1:1 coaching session with me worth £150

What's your biggest challenge in your relationship right now 💔 and if I could should you to solve this in 3 days would you be interested? Let me know in comments.