So kids fighting over seat is real thing 🤔 Today I witnessed one and I was like an African parent would either leave y"all behind to fight or beat y"all 😂

I saw @Carla Wright post about known while becoming and she was talking about solo parenting. Let me tell you about my own solo parenting. The true is, I feel like I have never really been parent. I gave birth to my daughter as a student and I had to go back to school. She first stayed with grandma, later my mom and when I finished high school, I didn’t go to college/ university so I started hustling. When I left uganda and came to Saudi Arabia and I got her from village and brought her to live with my sister in-law in the city. My village has bad influence and most young girls don't go past primary school. They either get married or pregnant. I didn’t want that for my daughter. Though we have a close relationship. We talked about hygiene, puberty and when she started her periods, she told me, when she had a crush at school, she told me and we talked about. Sometimes I feel like horrible mother because I don't really know my child, but now I have decided that I need to go back and we build a close relationship. One thing I'm really proud, I was able to take her to a good school and now she has a different mindset.

My daughter seat for mock exams last term and she got 8 aggregates. That's a strong first grade as per the ugandan standard. I know she still has her final exams, but I bought her a few gifts to motivate her to reader even harder for her final exams. I remember in my primary mocks I got 13 aggregates which is second grade. I feel so proud of her. I was never gifted for performing well, so I developed this culture of gifting my daughter everytime she performs well and she has never disappointed me. She has promo on 17th/10/26, I already got her a dress and shoes. I want her to experience all the wonderful experiences I never experienced while growing up and become a woman. I saw a parent on tiktok a few days ago saying ugandan parents we are not supposed to celebrate our children's best performance because that's not skill. It's just best performance. I feel like that's a foundation and now I'm thinking of talking her to learn baking since she has interest in baking. She's 13 making 14 in October 30th. They grow so fast. It's like you give birth and before you blink twice, they're grown.

“Oopsturnity: It’s an oops you can turn into an opportunity.” — Tabitha Brown 🤎 Right now, I’m working on the final edits of Before the World Tells You while my toddler sleeps and my baby girl is right beside me watching Auntie Tab’s Tab Time. 😂🤎 And this little message stopped me. Motherhood has given me plenty of “oops” moments—times I didn’t respond how I wanted, plans that didn’t go as expected, and moments I’ve had to try again. But I’m learning that an oops doesn’t have to be the end of the story. It can become an opportunity to repair, grow, teach differently, and do better the next time. Even this book was born from that same desire—to intentionally plant God’s truth in my girls before the world gets a chance to tell them who they are. So yes, Auntie Tab… we’re turning our oops into opportunities over here. 🌱🤎

How do you put yourself first without feeling guilty when you’ve always been the one to take care of everyone else’s needs before yours, especially family? I’ve reached a point where I’ve had to set boundaries with the people in my life, especially my family. I’ve missed out on so much, fell behind with a lot of things, allowed disrespect/ ungrateful behavior, and let myself go due to always people pleasing and sacrificing myself to make sure other people are happy. It got to the point where I’ve had ENOUGH! But now I’m left feeling very guilty putting ME first. I don’t know what to do!