My last dating experience was in November 2025. I’m not even sure I would call it a relationship, but it was definitely an experience—and it taught me that dating before 50 is not easy! He had recently gone through a divorce, and things seemed to be going well at first. However, when I couldn’t go on our second date, he completely flipped. Somewhere in our text conversation, I also mentioned that I felt he wasn’t a very good communicator. For example, he told me he would call me on a Thursday, but he never did. When I asked why, he simply said he forgot. I told him that consistency was important to me and that I wanted to understand where we were going with this—whatever “this” was. LOL. The irony was that he then made a surprise plan for that weekend, and I had to explain to him that what he had done was not acceptable to me. His response was that he was only human, that he was allowed to make mistakes, and then he hit me with, “I think you set too high of a standard.” And he call the date off and left me with, "later." Later, in December, we had plans to do a gift exchange. I put a lot of thought into the gift I chose for him, so when we met up and I saw that his gift seemed like the complete opposite, I was disappointed. More than the gift itself, it felt like he was trying to get back at me or make me feel like I was the problem—that somehow I was the one who needed healing. I tried my hardest to take accountability for my part and express how I felt, but I didn’t feel like he was really listening or trying to understand my perspective. The whole situation was awful and left me feeling emotionally drained. After that, he never called me again. Looking back, as difficult as the experience was, I think it taught me a lot about what I need in a relationship—especially communication, consistency, accountability, and being with someone who is willing to actually listen. When is having high standards a problem for a man?

I have officially reached the point in my life where the next time a man approaches me, compliments me, or tells me he’s interested in me, instead of just smiling and saying, “Thank you,” I’m coming straight out the gate with the important questions! Moving forward, I’m asking: “Do you love Jesus? Do you have a relationship with Yeshua?!” And if he looks at me like I belong in a mental institution… well, there’s my answer! Get far away from me, Satiana! I’m no longer putting up with the foolishness! Nonsense twww! 😭😂

Never allow someone’s inconsistency to train you into greater performance. Be careful when someone’s absence from you gets more effort than what their presence gives back. Remember, love is reciprocal.

Good morning I been going through this heart break and I been praying , reading scriptures , reading book, and working longer hours to distract ,my mind from thinking about my break up 😩🤦🏾‍♀️

If you know in your heart that you have done the best, you could nothing outside of you can shake you!! TRUST THE PROCESS!!! Surrender what you cannot control and trust that the right people will see and value for who you truly are