Let’s talk codependency — and drop the therapist-speak for a sec. If you’ve ever lost yourself taking care of a friend 🫂, bent over backwards to avoid an argument 🕺, or thrown yourself into "fixing" someone who didn't ask for it 🛠️… welcome to the club. Population: basically everyone, at some point 😅.
Here’s something wild — codependency isn’t just one thing. It shows up in four flavors (sadly, still no actual ice cream 🍦):
- The Caretaker: You only feel valuable when you’re fixing everyone’s messes? Sounds familiar? 🙋♂️
- The People-Pleaser: You’d rather eat a lemon 🍋 (rind and all) than let someone down.
- The Rescuer: The “I’ll save the day!!” type 🦸, even when no one’s asking for a hero.
- The Controller/Enabler: Low-key running the show so people stay reliant on you 🎛️ (and maybe letting some red flags slide 🚩).
Real talk: we all do at least one of these. No shame. Sometimes it’s love, sometimes fear, and sometimes it’s just… autopilot 🤷. The trick is noticing. Because nobody’s handing out trophies for ignoring your own needs 🏆🙅.
Ever catch yourself in one of these patterns? What helped you notice, or change it up? Drop your stories below, or slide into my DMs — messy honesty encouraged 📝💬.
Progress is progress, friends. Even the tiniest step counts. 💡✨🧩