2d • General discussion
FIELDNOTE 007 // Don't Bleed Out
Brothers —
Most men are remarkably good
at driving around wit the check-engine light on.
Even though we know better.
We see it. We know something needs attention.
But we push through it.
We’ve got somewhere to be.
People who are depending on us.
There’s work that needs to be done.
So we keep driving.
Matt Beaudreau and I got into this
during our Patriarch Preview on Monday.
As men, we tend to be mission-oriented.
It’s a gift to us from God.
It’s a superpower.
A man’s strength is his gift to the world.
To his woman. To his children.
But we can become so narrowly focused
on A mission that we miss out on THE mission,
and we ignore what’s happening to the very things
that make the completion of our mission possible.
And that blinking warning light
can come from anywhere.
Our body.
Our marriage.
Our finances.
Our relationship w/ our kids.
Our work.
Our anger.
Our temper.
Our energy or lackthereof.
Our faith — or hopelessness.
You know something isn’t right.
But it isn’t catastrophic.
At least, not right now.
So — we suck it up.
We’re “good”, we’re “fine”, we’re “alright.”
Those things — to a man — mean
“I’m mission ready,” even if we’re bleeding out.
When your woman says those things,
you know they’re an outright lie 😆
and that you should pay attention.
Most of us are bleeding out —
even if it IS just a little bit at a time.
The check-engine light is on,
and we keep driving. We keep grinding.
And then the lights start flashing.
We start getting dizzy.
And something breaks.
And here’s the biggest problem
when you’re a husband, a father, a leader:
You’re not the only person in this vehicle.
When dad breaks down, everybody eels it.
That’s why something else Matt said MATTERS:
Be brave enough to be curious.
Not afraid. Not ashamed.
Not in need of overhauling your entire life today.
Just brave enough t look under the hood.
Just brave enough to stop the bleeding.
FIELD WORK
Where is your check-engine light right now?
Self? Your health?
Marriage?
Your money?
Your fathering?
How you’re showing up outside your home?
Your faith?
Pick one. Then ask:
What do I already know needs my attention
that I’ve been avoiding because I “have to keep going?”
Don’t rebuild the whole engine today.
Run the diagnostic. Look at the reality.
Have the conversation. Ask for help.
Just take the first step.
Strength isn’t seeing how long you can drive
with the warning light on — it’s having the fortitude
to look under the hood and address it, even when
you don’t want to see what’s under there.
// Do the work
so they won’t have to.
x Rob
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FIELDNOTE 007 // Don't Bleed Out
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