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Mother's Day

Well I knew ahead of time that hearing from my oldest daughter would get me in emotional mind. I've had years of not hearing from my two daughters on holidays but my oldest has started reaching out some. My middle daughter who has passed always made a point of reaching out. Well my oldest sent "Happy Mothers Day" a few flower emojis and said she hoped that I would have a nice day. This put me into emotional mind. Hindsight was just to say thanks and wish her a happy Mother's Day. But no.....in emotional mind what came out was that I hoped she was being shown lots of love and appreciation. I added that she has quite a large crew there - (her 3 adult children and grandchildren.). After I had wrote that my day was going nicely. Hindsight shows me that my ego's agenda was to try to show her how much I loved her and that I had empathy for all she does for her children. In the past, I would have been thinking poor me being all by myself but I have moved on to really wanting joy for her. Joy for me was just hearing from her. I sense that my daughter read it as if I was feeling sorry for myself not getting a lot of love and appreciation. We made some headway last year and I think this was a step back for us.

Darn! I've been replaying this over and over and not being very kind to myself. 😢

Any kind words would be appreciated.

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