So this week I didn't hold myself to a standard. I went towards the situation with all intent but I could feel like my nervous system still didn't trust me to do it. I took responsibility and didn't blame the parts but I wasn't sure why I wasn't trusted to lead by them.
The reflection I got from this practice was that I let the parts help to easily. I'll offer a hand to them too soon. In the practice my partner was on the other side of the line and my parts couldn't get to me even though they tried.
At first the parts got a hand through the barrier but then when I became the grounded man. There was no more of this, it became a physical wall for them and my partner.
When I re-lived a heated situation and used the practice phrase, she looked confused but stopped. My parts thrashed to get to me but I didn't need them anymore.
There is now a separation between myself and my parts. I hope to implement this soon