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The Wake-Up Call I Didn't See Coming
The last few weeks have changed me in the same capacity as when I first went through self-concept work in NLP, and I want to share why.
It started with my job at the airline. Years ago, when this coworker first showed up with his nasty attitude of constant complaining and harassment, I was the only one who didn't let it slide. That's when he challenged me to a fight. He had no idea I train. I accepted right there, pulled out my phone, gave him my number, and we booked a time to meet. Other people had to pull him aside and tell him I train, and that's when his back suddenly started hurting and he backed off. Ever since then he's been trying to get under my skin and get back at me, unsuccessfully, since he can't physically or mentally take me. A few weeks ago he started bullying and harassing another coworker, and that's when I stepped in to defend them. He used it as his chance and filed an HR complaint trying to get me fired. He thought it would get me fired, but instead it kicked off a full investigation where both of us got suspended pending an investigation that might lead to termination.
On paper that sounds like a disaster. In reality it was the permission I needed to admit something I'd been avoiding for a long time. That job was never aligned with who I am. The only real reason I kept it was the flight benefits, I was using them constantly. But this whole situation woke me up to a truth I needed to hear: if I build a successful business, I don't need a job for discount flights, I can just buy the tickets. Nobody I admire and look up to would ever go through what I went through for a discounted plane ticket. They make enough money to buy everybody in that break room a ticket and then some. That benefit was playing small. It was the last safety net I needed to let go of. The suspension didn't break me. It woke me up.
Around the same time, I went through a separation from my girlfriend. I won't pretend it didn't hurt, but having real NLP tools to work through it made the difference between spiraling or progressing. I came out the other side stable. Running the resolving grief pattern gave me a real sense of appreciation for the time we had and for who she is, she's amazing, we just want different things out of life, which means we want different things out of each other.
The biggest shift was in how I see my work. I've been a personal trainer for years, and I still love training and understanding the body, but I lost my passion for fitness as the whole story. Client after client, the actual fitness problem would resolve in three or four sessions once we fixed the belief and identity issues underneath it. Eating sorted itself out. Consistency sorted itself out. After that, every session became closer to life coaching than fitness coaching, because fitness was never really the problem in the first place.
That pattern told me what I actually am. I'm not a fitness coach. I'm a change coach, I hate the term life coach but it's what my personal training clients are calling me. The body is just one of the rooms I happen to know well. I do my best work with conscientious professionals who already have the ambition and drive, who are either changing careers or building something of their own, and just need the right belief shift to point it somewhere bigger.
So I rebuilt. I pulled the plug on my old YouTube channel so I could take it in a new direction. I'm revamping every platform I'm on. I launched the new coaching business, and I already have my first paying client. I also held to something I believe regardless of circumstances, which is that every quarter, or at minimum every six months, you owe it to yourself to upgrade a quality or add a new one. I used this stretch to do exactly that.
The next chapter is sales. I'm moving into it on purpose, not as a fallback. It's one of the best environments for personal growth I know of, it pays well, and it gives me a daily lab to keep using everything I've built in NLP.
None of this happened because life got easier. It happened because I stopped tolerating what was misaligned and let the discomfort do its job.
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The Wake-Up Call I Didn't See Coming
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