THE EXPERIMENT THAT MESSED WITH MY RHYTHM So last week I did an experiment with my coach in regards to posting content, which on the surface sounds really simple, but actually it wasn’t. The experiment was to not post content and instead focus on having more human connections with people. Now the human connection part was great, I really enjoyed that side of it, but the not posting content part felt a lot harder than I expected it to. If I’m honest, it feels like it knocked me out of my flow a little bit. Before that, I was in a rhythm with my videos and the content I was putting out, I knew what I was doing, I felt aligned with it, and then suddenly that consistency shifted. Since then, everything has felt a bit more bitty, like I’m not quite grounded in the same way I was before. JUGGLING LIFE, BUSINESS AND A BIG MOVE At the same time, there’s a lot going on at home. I’m not just thinking about content and business, I’m also sorting through the house, selling things, and getting everything ready for the move to Bali. But it’s not just physical belongings, it’s also the legal side of things that need to be sorted before I leave, things with the house itself, homeschooling Lily, continuing to work, supporting my two adult daughters with their children, and still making time to actually be present with my adult kids and my grandchildren. When I really sit and look at it, there’s a lot happening all at once. And over the last couple of days I’ve really started to feel the weight of that. It’s not even just the doing, it’s the mental load of holding it all at the same time. OLD PATTERNS CREEPING BACK IN What I’ve noticed is that I’ve slipped slightly back into old patterns. That habit of putting everything else before the things that are actually going to move me forward has started to creep back in. It’s subtle, but I can see it, and once you see it, you can’t unsee it. That awareness is frustrating, but it’s also important, because it gives me the opportunity to do something different rather than just falling fully back into it.

Do you say “Don’t be rude. Give them a kiss.” Or do you listen? This might seem like a small thing. But for neurodivergent children especially, personal space and physical boundaries matter a lot. Their nervous systems often experience the world more intensely. Touch. Noise. Expectations. Proximity. Everything can feel amplified. Yet as adults we sometimes override those signals without even thinking about it. We tell children to ignore their instincts. We tell them to comply. And then we wonder why so many adults struggle with boundaries later in life. I shared a video today talking about why personal space and consent matter so much for neurodivergent kids. Would love to hear your thoughts on this. And if you're a mum navigating neurodiversity, I’ve created a space called Mums Embracing Neurodiversity where we talk about these things openly.

One thing people often say about me as a parent is that I’m very open with my kids. Honestly… they’re right. People have been shocked before when they hear the conversations we have in our house. But the reason is simple. I would always rather my children ask me the question than go looking for the answer somewhere else. Especially online. When I was a Social Worker, I worked with many teens, naturally the topic of sex came up often. I remember one boy in particular, the topic of sex was rife for him and his friends. The boys were talking about things they’d heard, things they’d seen online, and a lot of it wasn’t exactly accurate. At one point a few of the of the mums said to me, “Can you talk to our sons? Because we don’t even know how to start that conversation.” So one afternoon we did. I bought a load of condoms, grabbed some bananas, and we sat there talking about bodies, relationships and what actually happens as you grow up. The boys made jokes, of course they did. They were teenagers. But we laughed, we talked, and by the end of it something shifted. The conversations became normal. This lad even told me later that when things came up at school he already understood what was happening, because we had already talked about it. This was the same for my own children. You see for me, this has never been about awkward conversations. It’s about safe conversations. Because if children don’t feel they can ask their parents, or other safe adults around them the questions, they will still go looking for answers. They just won’t always find them in the right places. And when you’re raising neurodiverse children, those conversations become even more important. Literal thinking, curiosity, and the internet can be a very complicated mix. That’s one of the reasons I created Mums Embracing Neurodiversity. Because parents need somewhere they can talk honestly about these things. Without judgement.Without shame. And without feeling like they have to pretend they’ve got it all figured out.

COMING BACK INTO MY BODY Today was a little bit different. My sleep has been a bit all over the place since I became unwell. My voice is now back fully and my energy levels are returning, but the difference today felt deeper than that. It felt like something else is shifting in me. THE BALI MOVE BECOMING MORE REAL EVERY DAY Things are really starting to take shape with the move to Bali. I spoke to my visa agent and everything is running smoothly and exactly as it should be. The things that I need to do here are slowly getting done and Lily is becoming more and more excited about the move. She’s learning Indonesian which I think is absolutely amazing and it’s actually helping me learn some Indonesian too. Kids tend to have more capacity to learn things, especially languages, in a much easier way than us adults. But honestly it’s just great to see how excited she is about this move and how much she wants to immerse herself in the language and the culture when we finally get out there. A SHIFT IN HOW I SHOW UP What else is different today is that I’ve changed slightly how I’m approaching my business and my content. And it feels really aligned. I’m speaking my truth more.I’m sharing my experiences more.I’m sharing my professional experiences more. And that’s something I’ve known for a long time that I needed to do. But I just didn’t feel confident enough or in the right headspace to do it before. And that’s okay. Because we all travel through this journey in different stages. The stage I’m in now feels very clear. I’m here to make a difference. I’m here to show people that changing your life can be hard. It is hard. But when something is worth doing and you apply yourself to it, you really can achieve anything you want to. THE THINGS PEOPLE SAID ABOUT ME When I was a teenager, and even into my twenties, the go-to thing people would say about me was… “She’s not going to do anything with her life.” “She’s never going to amount to anything.” “She’ll just be one of those council estate mums.”

FEELING HUMAN AGAIN I’m starting to feel a lot better now. My voice has returned and the low energy and tightness is starting to subside. I slept for 9½ hours yesterday which I clearly needed. So today it was very much a busy day, but in all the right ways. THE BALI MOVE BECOMING MORE REAL BY THE DAY Over the last few days I’ve managed to get quite a few things sorted out for the big Bali move. Everything feels like it’s really happening now. It’s falling into place. Big things with my home have been organised and are now in the process of being sorted out which helps to cement the realisation that we are actually going. BACK INTO THE FLOW OF WORK I did lots of work today. Lots of connecting. I had an amazing call with two epic women in my community around masking and overwhelm which I really enjoyed actually. Then I carried on working on my business, getting more visibility and continuing my A–Z of all things Neurodiversity which I’m really enjoying. It’s getting really good feedback from a lot of parents and I can see how sharing my knowledge in this way is really helpful for other parents. Because I’m taking away the jargon and the “I know something is going on but I don’t know what it is” kind of thoughts that so many of us as mums have. FINDING OUR RHYTHM AGAIN Me and Lily have been finding a new rhythm since I’ve been unwell. We slowed down with our morning routine for a few days but that’s now starting to come back into play. And actually it’s helping me feel better. Not doing movement in the morning definitely didn’t help with feeling sluggish and a bit crappy through the day. COOKING, CONNECTION AND A SURPRISING DINNER WIN Tonight we made Katsu vegetable curry which was really nice. And I’m actually surprised that Lily really liked it. That felt like a win. Instead of watching the program we’ve been watching recently we decided to watch something different. A PROGRAM THAT HIT HARD We watched a program called I Swear on Netflix. And I’ve got to say, it completely floored me.