Sharing my latest IG post here: Ive worked with men for the past 10 years and the single most common reason men seek the help of others is: Lack of VISION Many men think having a vision will somehow transform their lives, give them purpose, give them clarity and relief from the confusion of their current existence. But the truth is that a vision requires the first steps be take into the total dark. When you read a book, you don't know what it will say, what answers it will give you, and what doors it will open. When you venture out into the world, you dont know what will come of it. The fact that life is full of the unknown is terrifying. But a vision doesn't change that. The vision you seek comes when you have spent long enough in the unknown and allowed the noise to settle. The vision becomes clear as you learn that it isn't going to solve anything. I see men spin their wheels for years, haunted by the idea they have of a perfect life. This impossible idea remains forever over the horizon. Life is not a destination that you one day arrive at. There is a reason vision quests are often done in the dark, fasting for days, alone. When the illusions of the senses quiet for long enough, then clarity is able to enter. Actions are often small, but if they are purposeful then they are also meaningful. Don't rush into action in order to distract from the unknown. Be with the unknown so you can know when, and how, to act.

Something that arose for me over the weekend was a desire for consistency. In that spirit, I have harvested the following 3 prompts that I will be utilizing to set my project into motion: 1) What am I working on this week? 2) What action will I take? 3) What is holding me back? Join me in this inquiry.

@Jon Dawson

You may have noticed that how me meet each man in the calls varies. Some we dig deeper, and others we simply meet them where they are. Our stance on Mens Work and coaching is that accountability isnt about "should". We dont want anything for you. We are commited to supporting you to create what you want by providing inquiry and feedback around whats missing, or whats in the way. If you want a higher flame, the way to do that is to put yourself in the space, post your updates, what youre noticing, and what you are stuck on. There is no pressure to want a higher gradient, only the opportunity to get more for yourself.

https://open.substack.com/pub/rekovitae/p/empathy-isnt-soft?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=54f5m2