Nov 3 • General discussion
🍑 Libido through life: What changes
Your libido is not broken. It’s evolving. Whether you’re in your 20s or 50s, in a new relationship or recovering from burnout fluctuations in desire are part of the human experience.
Libido is not a fixed trait
It’s a dynamic expression of your body, mind, and emotional world.
🧠 lets break if down - What is LIBIDO, actually?
In science, libido refers to sexual desire but it’s shaped by much more than just hormones.
Your libido is influenced by:
• Hormonal health (testosterone, estrogen, oxytocin, dopamine)
• Mental health (stress, anxiety, depression, trauma)
• Lifestyle (sleep, movement, nutrition, alcohol, medication)• Relationships (emotional connection, communication, conflict)
• Life phases (parenthood, career shifts, menopause, aging)
🐥 In Your 20s
Often seen as the "peak" of sexual drive — especially due to higher testosterone levels in all genders.
But also:
– Many people experience performance anxiety or emotional confusion
– Sex may be fueled by curiosity or validation more than by authentic connection
– Communication is often still developing which impacts satisfaction
🧒🏼 In Your 30s
Desire becomes more connected to emotional intimacy.
– For women: hormonal shifts, motherhood, birth control can impact libido
– For men: early signs of testosterone changes may appear
– Stress and life load start to matter more than “horny hormones”
– Couples often face mismatched libidos or struggle to keep the spark alive
👨 In your 40s and after
Forget the myths: this can be the most liberated and pleasurable phase.
– Women enter perimenopause/menopause — desire may dip or surge
– Men experience andropause — gradual testosterone changes
– But the real shift? Quality > quantity
– Sex becomes about depth, connection, embodiment
– If there's safety and self-awareness desire becomes richer, not weaker
😏 What else affects libido?
– Chronic stress hijacks the nervous system and kills desire
– SSRI antidepressants often lower libido
– Unprocessed shame or trauma can block arousal
– Emotional disconnection is a more common libido-killer than age
– Lack of sleep, resentment, anxiety - all show up in the bedroom
So... What’s “NORMAL” libido then?
There isn’t one.
Libido doesn’t need to be high to be healthy.
It needs to be authentic.
IN SYNC with your needs, your body, and your stage of life.
If you're navigating desire changes right now — you're not alone.
You don’t need to push through, perform, or “fix” it.
You can slow down and listen.
Desire often returns when we feel safe, present, and seen.
Did you notice a change trough your life? 👀
What increases or decreases it for you?
Let’s normalize the real experience of sexuality not the filtered version of it. There are so many myths and misinformation around these topics. Lets get real 😏
Irina
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🍑 Libido through life: What changes
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