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Some say the squeaky wheel gets the grease life is all about perspective I know my glass is half full.. it's only your fault if you look at it as half empty

So since we're on the topic of conditional and unconditional love I would like to explain where I'm coming from I've really noticed lately the effects of stepping out of my children's life because of addiction.. I've always taught my kids a few things to love unconditionally and to not bully.. as I get further into my recovery my children get more involved in my life and I've realized it's always dad can I get this Dad can I get that and the happiness they get is from me buying them things shows me that they now accept conditional love... Unfortunately everything I taught them about unconditional love has been screwed up because of addiction. So when they get mad at me they get mad at me for not buying them things they don't get mad at me for not loving them purely or anything like that yes they probably have resentment for stepping out of their life but they also don't understand the benefits of me not being around them while using..So as I move on in life I have to work on that and teach them all over again my way of thinking my way of loving. So I don't hold it against them because it's not their fault that I decided to do something that ultimately cause detrimental effects on their future. So what I do now is just move forward perseverance is everything so I suggest if you need help you need anything like this or you're going through similar situations that you take your children with kid gloves for people that don't know what that is it's just with kindness and humility... Again my opinion. So at the end of the day if you ultimately take responsibility for their change in love then you have a good start a good foundation to figure this out. To love everybody unconditionally isn't easy but ultimately they decide where they want to be in your life. And that doesn't work for children because unconditional love is pure when it's your child.. but if you start off solid you'll end solid have a great day

Welcome to Mental Health and Recovery as we focus on each other's opinions of how to stay on a path of recovery and what it takes to transition to recovery from active addiction..There's something very important in life when looking at it as a whole instead of looking at it day by day that's pretty much the difference between recovery and sobriety sobriety is day to day and Recovery is looking at it as a whole. These are basedoff my opinions through my recovery stage also everyday occurrences that happen through active addiction I would love to hear your opinions or maybe somebody you know needs to talk I'm here to help I'm here to talk...

All my posts are open for opinion and would love to hear what you might think would benefit me. Just in a few days that I've started this it has helped me explain myself to myself and to the people that might not be able to comprehend what's going on in their life... Fine tuning Mental Health isn't the same for everybody but the end goal is clarity which I hope is everybody's end goal when it comes to Mental Health... Opinions are like assholes they say everybody has one and that's okay as long as they are valid to your beliefs and you stand on what you believe in.. I'm here to listen.