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Some say the squeaky wheel gets the grease life is all about perspective I know my glass is half full.. it's only your fault if you look at it as half empty

So since we're on the topic of conditional and unconditional love I would like to explain where I'm coming from I've really noticed lately the effects of stepping out of my children's life because of addiction.. I've always taught my kids a few things to love unconditionally and to not bully.. as I get further into my recovery my children get more involved in my life and I've realized it's always dad can I get this Dad can I get that and the happiness they get is from me buying them things shows me that they now accept conditional love... Unfortunately everything I taught them about unconditional love has been screwed up because of addiction. So when they get mad at me they get mad at me for not buying them things they don't get mad at me for not loving them purely or anything like that yes they probably have resentment for stepping out of their life but they also don't understand the benefits of me not being around them while using..So as I move on in life I have to work on that and teach them all over again my way of thinking my way of loving. So I don't hold it against them because it's not their fault that I decided to do something that ultimately cause detrimental effects on their future. So what I do now is just move forward perseverance is everything so I suggest if you need help you need anything like this or you're going through similar situations that you take your children with kid gloves for people that don't know what that is it's just with kindness and humility... Again my opinion. So at the end of the day if you ultimately take responsibility for their change in love then you have a good start a good foundation to figure this out. To love everybody unconditionally isn't easy but ultimately they decide where they want to be in your life. And that doesn't work for children because unconditional love is pure when it's your child.. but if you start off solid you'll end solid have a great day

All my posts are open for opinion and would love to hear what you might think would benefit me. Just in a few days that I've started this it has helped me explain myself to myself and to the people that might not be able to comprehend what's going on in their life... Fine tuning Mental Health isn't the same for everybody but the end goal is clarity which I hope is everybody's end goal when it comes to Mental Health... Opinions are like assholes they say everybody has one and that's okay as long as they are valid to your beliefs and you stand on what you believe in.. I'm here to listen.

Sometimes with addiction/recovery/mental health just maintaining throughout the day can make for a better tomorrow... As I focus on my recovery there's a couple days a week that I still have bad days so I remind myself if I make it through these it'll make for a better tomorrow and I think that's a big part of growth in mental health and Recovery. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to someone to love us for our issues instead of our benefits... A big thing in my life right now and I believe it's a big thing and everybody's life is the difference between conditional and unconditional love some people like to see a car sitting in the driveway for a means of transportation instead of a love laying next to them at night that doesn't mean that person won't find love it just means maybe that person's not the right one for you at your stage of recovery... Just food for thought hope this helps one person ..if it helps one person I've done my job have a great day!