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December Reflections: The Art of Letting Go & Creating Space for the Woman You're Becoming
December always does this thing where everything speeds up... the holiday plans, the pressure and deadlines, the emotions of being home with family and knowing I am going to say goodbye again soon...
And at the same time, I naturally start reflecting on my year. I look at who I’ve been, who I’m becoming, and what I want for myself. And I love that part of this month...
But in these reflections, I am seeing a truth that I can’t ignore:
I can’t become the next version of myself if I’m still holding onto the old one. She was built for a different chapter of my life, and I’m not in that chapter anymore.
One thing I’ve really had to face this year is how easily I distract myself from the things that actually matter.
I’ll tell myself I’m “busy,” or I “don’t have time,” when really, I’m avoiding the thing that scares me. I can look back and see so many moments where instead of working on something important, something that mattered to me, something that asked more of me... I’d drift into tasks that felt easier, safer, less confronting.
And underneath all of that?
Fear.
Fear of being seen.
Fear of putting out something imperfect.
Fear of stepping into the version of me who actually wants more.
I’m realizing I can’t take that with me into 2026. It's time to let go, and create space for the next version of me.
I’m letting go of the feeling that everything needs to be perfect before I share it. I’m letting go of the habit of hiding behind “busyness.” I’m letting go of the tightness in my chest that tells me, “Don’t try this yet. It’s not ready. You’re not ready.”
Letting go, for me, has shown up in these tiny, honest moments where I can feel my old pattern activate. It’s a real physical thing, the tightness in my chest, that wave of anxiety right before I say yes to something I don’t have capacity for… or right before I avoid something I actually want.
And it’s in those moments that I see the truth:
I can’t choose differently if I’m not present, and I can't let go if I keep choosing the old patterns.
Presence is the only thing that interrupts the automatic pattern... the overthinking, the self-doubt, the perfectionism, the avoidance. It’s the split second where I can feel myself defaulting to the older version of me… and actually catch it.
Without presence, the old version wins. With presence, I have a choice.
So this month, I’m asking myself some honest questions:
What am I still carrying that feels too heavy to bring into a new year?
Where am I distracting myself instead of facing what I want?
What am I avoiding because it asks me to grow?
And what would I create if I stopped waiting for “perfect”?
I want you to know something I wish someone had told me earlier:
Even if your life looks good, even if it looks full, aligned, exciting... stepping into the next version of yourself always requires letting something go. Where you're placing your time and energy, old beliefs, outdated habits, identities that don’t fit anymore.
Letting go isn't this dramatic moment, even though I love a good burn it to the ground moment when it's needed... but usually it's more modest.. It’s awareness, it’s presence, and it’s choosing differently in small, uncomfortable moments. It’s being honest with yourself about what you actually want.
Before you move into the reflection questions, just take a moment to settle into yourself.
Let whatever is true rise to the surface.
These questions are here to help you see the things you don’t always catch in your day-to-day life... the patterns that only become clear when you pause long enough to notice them.
Answer them from your truth, not your fear.
Awareness is what begins the letting go.
Reflection Questions
- What did I keep doing this year that I knew wasn’t good for me, but I kept doing anyway?
- What am I still holding onto out of comfort, habit, or fear not alignment?
- What pattern feels the most familiar… and the most limiting?
- Where do I consistently abandon myself?
- What version of me do I keep defaulting back to, even though she doesn’t fit anymore?
- What am I afraid will happen if I actually let this go?
- Who would I have to become if I stopped repeating this pattern?
- What is one thing I can release this month that would create more space in my life immediately?
This is what December is for, not reinventing yourself overnight, but clearing the space for who you’re becoming.
Letting go is what creates that space.
And I’m right here doing it with you.
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December Reflections: The Art of Letting Go & Creating Space for the Woman You're Becoming
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